[ SECRET POST #2008 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2008 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Is there a double standard with this?

From what I've seen men are generally just as looked down upon if they like younger women. I've seen men get called creepy and perverted just for admitting they have crushes on younger women.

Society seems to tell both sexes that you should stick to your own age group.

[deadtree]

idk, women who are more than a few years older than their (male) partner get side-eyed a lot harder than the reverse situation. Once you hit 10+ years though, there's a lot of side-eying no matter what, that's true.

[(Anonymous)]

i don't know who you hang around or what you're watching but i have never, ever seen anybody side-eye anybody for being in a relationship with somebody who was a few years their senior or junior, unless it dealt with teenagers. 10+ years, yeah, on both sides, but otherwise not at all.

[deadtree]

I think you missed the "more than" part of my comment bb.

[(Anonymous)]

what exactly falls between 'more than a few years' and '10+'? few is a very relative term, one which i was using to describe anywhere beetween 1 and 10. but thanks for being condescending! *thumbs up*

[(Anonymous)]

My mom is 8 years older than my dad. When that bit of info comes to the front, it's like everything else takes a back burner to the OMG OLDER WOMAN thing. Including when my sister got her doctorate, my brother returned from Iraq, and I graduated college.

[diet_poison]

oh man, that sucks. And it's dumb too. My aunt is 8 years older than her hubby, and they've been together for quite some time and have two kids. No one in our fam thinks it's a big deal. I hope they don't get this kind of shit from other people. =/

[philstar22]

My mom is 3 years older than my dad, and she gets it.

[(Anonymous)]

You also get the accusations of having a "middle aged crisis" if you're a man who's over about 40 but likes younger women.

[anonymouslyyours]

I think the social stigma is worse for older women. I've only ever seen men get called creepy for having boundary-crossing unreciprocated crushes, not for actually dating younger women except in cases where the age difference is extreme or if he seems to be taking advantage.

I've definitely had several conversations with people of both genders who though it was more "natural" for men to date younger women.

Men's peers are usually pretty congratulatory while women tend to get pity, side-eying, and judgment. There's also hella more positive portrayals in the media of older male/younger women relationships. Mostly older woman/younger man is played for punchlines or gross out factor.

[visp.livejournal.com]

Agreed. By the time an older guy gets called a creep for his interest in a younger girl, it's usually pretty well earned.

[loki]

Movies tell us older, lined-faced men, get the gorgeous younger chicks.

[(Anonymous)]

Brad Pitt is 12 years older than Angelina Jolie.
George Clooney is 18 years older than Stacy Keibler(his current girlfriend).
Demi Moore is 16 years older than Ashton Kutcher.

Guess which relationship, when mentioned by the media (or anyone, really), almost always has the age gap brought up. Go ahead, guess.

[childings.livejournal.com]

I think, at least in the United States, that it's generally frowned down upon more when a man tries to hook up with a younger woman. Same for men who have sex with teenagers vs. women who do. I don't know how many times I've seen a female teacher get a ridiculously light sentence after having sex with a student (meanwhile the general prevailing opinion seems to be "that's hot") but the opposite happens to male teachers who have sex with students.

[childings.livejournal.com]

Also, women who assert their sexuality aggressively are usually considered sexy in some way (or at least bold or brave) but a man who does so is always, always a creep. I would say this is probably because people don't find female sexuality as threatening as male sexuality though (which is pretty sexist)