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fandomsecrets2012-07-02 06:36 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-07-02 06:36 pm
[ SECRET POST #2008 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2008 ⌋
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anon you replied to
(Anonymous) 2012-07-03 05:53 am (UTC)(link)I felt the same way when I realized how I was censoring some of my thoughts depending on who I was with, but it's really not a bad thing nor does it make you a deceitful person. If anything, it makes you self-aware and mindful of your social environment, and this is a good thing. You're less likely to accidentally insult or hurt someone this way.
The only thing I can think of to watch out for here is the rumor-mill. For example, if you tell your friend something less than flattering about X person or X group of people — I don't know, let's say that you have a strange hatred of teachers—, and the friend tells a friend who tells a tattletale with the teacher you were talking about, who decides to take a little revenge for your comments on your grade.
But really, those are more extreme cases, and while they're definitely a thing to consider when choosing your words and company, they're something that you aren't very likely to run into, from the sound of your posts. You seem like a fairly self-conscious person and it doesn't sound like you're spiteful or mean with your words, so I wouldn't worry to much about it. Just something to keep in mind, but not obsess over it.
And, um, I kind of forgot where I was going with this.
But anyway! You're not a bad person for behaving and saying things a little differently around different groups of people, or for holding back certain things around some people and not others. I've been like that and I know how it feels, but I found that the solution (not just in real life but also on the internet) is to try to be diplomatic and do my best to choice my words carefully to avoid demeaning or insulting people. It still fails, but I'm learning from each experience.
And thinking through what you want to say or type at length has the added benefit of making you reevaluate your ideas, morals and values, so you can find if there's something lurking in your subconscious that you don't like and work on correcting that.