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F!S Anon Meme (the Seventh, and now on DW!)

Secrets, rants, opinions, anything you want to say about your fandom or a fandom or fandom in general, do it here! Anonymously, of course. Get it all off your chest.

Some ground rules:
1. Going anon is encouraged but not absolutely required (for those who struggle with captchas and stuff).
2. No autoplaying/autolooping embeds, or embeds that cover/stretch the screen.
3. No dropping personal info or IRL contact info, etc.

That's about it, though!

I'll be linking some general/general-fandom threads I see so people don't repost new threads with the same stuff.

Unpopular Ships
Obligatory Masturbation Thread
Fandoms you wish existed
How old are you?
What series have you always meant to watch/read/play/etc. but have never?
Time and location
Female-centric works
How do you feel about Tumblr?
Pet thread
Guilty pleasure thread
Favorite old shows
First fandom?

Comments

Re: Demisexual

[honk]

i think demisexuality as a concept is real; however it gauges the amount of sex you're having (or your conditions for it) rather than your actual orientation and demisexuals aren't oppressed or in need of awareness so while i understand using it as a term i don't think it's accurate/appropriate to answer "demisexual" if someone asks you your orientation

it's kind of a dumb term to feel you "need" anyway when i imagine a majority of the population would thusly be ~demisexual (haven't met many sexualsexuals, who jump literally everybody they see)

eta: also i don't think demisexuality ever intended to be a slut-shaming term and it irritates me when people jump on identifying demisexuals because they are oh so obviously slut-shamers. separating yourself from more sexually active people is not inherently slut-shaming.

above anon

[(Anonymous)]

Demisexuality is not at all about how much sex you have or who you have sex with, though. It's about who you're sexually attracted to. And people who identify as demisexual clearly don't see the majority of the population as fitting in with their orientation (I certainly don't), otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to identify it as a separate concept.

Thank you for refuting the whole slut-shaming thing, though. That's something else a lot of people don't get.

Re: above anon

[honk]

i was under the impression demisexuality as a label described a state in which you're only sexually attracted to people you're emotionally close to. it doesn't give specifics on gender preferences or anything else that typically goes into an orientation label like the others. so at the very least this is why so many people don't accept demisexuality as a sexual orientation like homosexuality or pansexuality, etc. the label doesnt serve the same purpose the others do. i see sexuality kind of like a grid and orientations are on the X axis, whereas the amount of sexual attraction you face is on the Y axis. everybody has a place on both of these, imo, which is why i think demisexuality is a thing but not necessarily an orientation.

Re: above anon

[(Anonymous)]

I think we're in agreement here, then. I just wanted to clarify the whole attraction-not-behavior thing.

Re: above anon

[honk]

yeah sorry, that was bad wording on my part. didn't realise i'd worded it that way either

Re: above anon

[(Anonymous)]

DA

i see sexuality kind of like a grid and orientations are on the X axis, whereas the amount of sexual attraction you face is on the Y axis. everybody has a place on both of these, imo, which is why i think demisexuality is a thing but not necessarily an orientation.

That's a really interesting way to explain it, and I agree. Orientations are about gender, and amount of sexual attraction is a different scale. It's still important, but I wouldn't classify it as an orientation in itself.