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⌈ Secret Post #2044 ⌋

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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge/Perfect Girl Evolution]

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[Suits]

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[A Song of Ice and Fire]

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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge]

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[Sherlock BBC]

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[Homestuck]

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[Sherlock]

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[Stargate Atlantis]

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[Cyborg 009]

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[The Amazing Spiderman]

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[Stargate Universe]

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[Avatar: the Last Airbender]

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[Bunheads/Game of Thrones]

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[thesyndicateproject (youtube)]

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[Codex Alera]

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[Wishbone]

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[The Game OverThinker]

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[K-ON!]

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[Magical Diary]

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You're definitely not overreacting. This is emotionally manipulative behavior, and you need to protect yourself.

He may not be a "bad" guy. It sounds like he's suffered from sexual trauma and has a lot of problems with insecurity. But this isn't a healthy situation, and he doesn't have any right to treat you like this. Can you encourage him to seek counseling?

However, even if he does get counseling, I'd be very careful, here. Like I said, you need to take care of yourself.

I have...but he says he doesn't need it. He feels he's in the right to say/feel the way he does, and I'm just being irrational/over-reacting. As well as unfair for not seeing 'his side' of things. :/

I brought issues up today (He passively mentioned my Ex again) and he said I was being unfair/acting crazy. And that he is not 'slut shaming' just stating facts. Sigh.

Sadly you can't force him to get help. =\ What's unfair of him is to abuse and attempt to control you the way he's doing.

He's definitely not in the right here. I can tell you that much.

You're doing what you can, and I think it's very noble of you to encourage you to get help.

But ultimately, the power to get help for himself rests with him, not you. That's a hard reality to swallow. But if he refuses to even try to see what's going on, that he's hurting you, and he needs help, then you need to get out. You won't help either of you by sticking around to be abused more.

I'm sorry to say it, but that's how every argument with him is always going to go. He will always say that you're overreacting; he will always say that you aren't seeing "his side;" and he will always say that he doesn't need help. It doesn't matter what he does -- he will always be right, and you will always be wrong, and everything that he does to you will be justified in some way, regardless of its severity.

You can't help him. But you can help yourself -- by getting out of this.

Yet he never sees 'your side' of things. A healthy relationship is one in which you both stand as equals. He has no right to tell you what to think or eel. You are not his puppet/property/pet/whatever the fuck ths guy thinks you are. You're entitled to your own opinions. 'Bitches be crazy' is the oldest excuse for coping when somebody disagrees with you. He's not willing to see you as anything but his sex toy who occasionally opens her mouth. The so-called 'facts' are bullshit. YOU ARE THE SOLE OWNER OF YOUR BODY. He can't tell you what to do with it.

Get out of the relationship, for your own sake. You never know when he'll stop being a manipulative asshole and become violent 'because you're so crazy and you just don't listen, it's all for you own sake'. This can end very, and I mean VERY badly for you. He's not above demanding sex from you; next thing he'll do is downright taking whatever he wants from you. And since your word is worthless to him, there'll be no difference if you refuse. To him, your body is his to use as he pleases.

The guy clearly has issues. IT'S NOT YOUR OBLIGATION TO UP WITH THEM AND/OR FIX THEM. YOU DON'T OWE HIM SHIT. No matter what you do, it won't be enough for him. HE has to change, not you. You don't have to sacrifice your mind/body/life for the sake of anybody. You're not helping him by doing what he wants, you're only furthering his fucked-up way of thinking.

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