[ SECRET POST #2050 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2050 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 114 secrets from Secret Submission Post #293.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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Comments

[diet_poison]

"I don't want her in fandom"

Am I the only one who finds this controlling and pretentious?

[thene]

I figured it was about the kind of social partitioning we all tend to do. Like how you might not want your dating partner to hang out with your work friends, or something.

[(Anonymous)]

I see what you mean, but we've had secrets of people introducing their friends to internet fandom and regretting it, so maybe that's the train of thinking op is following.

[(Anonymous)]

The OP sounds selfish more than anything. That they want to keep their fandom discussions just between the two of them and no one else. Almost like they don't want to share. It's a little strange.

[(Anonymous)]

The wording is a bit weird but I don't think it's really controlling. It's just like different circle of friends and sometimes you don't want them to mix.

[diet_poison]

Maybe. I've gotten at least one other reply like that...but it just seems weird to me, idk it's like they're trying to engineer their social circle and control who can interact with who

maybe it's because I don't really run my social life that way? or if I do I don't realize it...

[hiyami]

I run my social life like this, because I don't necessarily share the same aspects of my life with people in the different parts of it (fandom, RL friends, work, family, etc). Some things are more private than others, some things are of no interest to some people so I don't see the point of telling them about it, and fandom things in particular can get pretty embarrassing seen by people who aren't in it.

[diet_poison]

Well, thinking that you want to keep certain aspects of your life from some people, or figuring that some people would be bored by certain things, is one thing. This felt more to me like "I don't want X to be friends with Y and I would be upset if they were".

[hiyami]

But OP doesn't mention anyone in fandom? Just that they don't want their IRL friend to find out that fandom as we know it online exists, basically.

Considering that once you dip a toe into it, you're more or less bound to come across things that are considered as questionable by most people who have no idea what we're doing, I think it's understandable?

[(Anonymous)]

I read it as she was concerned her friend would find the fic she's written and recognise her ideas. Which would be very awkward.

I never tell RL friends about being in internet fandom, they think it's sad and weird, which is a pretty standard view in my experience, so I just don't say anything.

[(Anonymous)]

I thought it was controlling, yeah. I could be wrong, though. I thought that maybe OP didn't want the person in fandom because they'd be talking to other fandom people — and maybe wouldn't talk to OP? Which would mean it was coming from a desire to control, yes. None of that is stated, though. Speculation, speculation…