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I got a new car several months ago. My best guy friend wanted me to make him a key "for emergencies" but I refused because while I love him I don't trust him not to randomly decide he needs to "borrow" my car (his is a piece of crap and is constantly breaking down).

Fast forward to yesterday, when I'm giving my best (female) friend a ride somewhere. She decided she needed to confess to me that she had stolen my keys a couple months ago while I was in a meeting and gone and gotten a copy made for my guy friend because she "felt bad for him". I thought at first she was trying to make a joke, but no, apparently she's serious. Evidently she realized she made a mistake, and went to try to get the key back from him but he'd made another copy. At that point I pulled over and made her get out at a gas station and vowed to never speak to her again (not my best moment, I'll admit, but I was beyond pissed, and it wasn't in a dangerous part of town or anything...she survived to complain about what an evil bitch I was on Facebook a few hours later).

At this point I'm done with both of them, as clearly neither of them are actually my friends, but I'm not sure what to do since apparently there are all these copies of my key floating around out there and it's not like a house where I could just go get the locks changed. As far as I know my car's never been "borrowed" in any of this time but I hate knowing there are people with the key and it could be.

Am I overreacting to this, or am I right to be this fucking angry? What do I do in this situation?

I probably would have done the same thing as you tbh. What kind of asshole does something like that? I don't think you need to make any apologies

No. That is fucked up behavior.

One, dude does not need to have a copy of your keys. Two, lady had absolutely ZERO right to STEAL your keys, and not only steal your keys but to give them to somebody else when she knew specifically you had already said no to him. Three, dude made ANOTHER copy of your keys full well knowing how you felt.

This is YOUR car, your life and they apparently have zero respect for you or your belongings. I'd drop them because they honestly don't sound like real friends.

I'd talk to the dealership or a mechanic and ask their opinion. It might be able to change your car key or get an alarm system or something. Definitely investigate because that is just not cool knowing people who don't respect you have copies of your car keys.

No you did not overreact. What she did was absolutely horrible. She put you in danger. I cannot even fathom a friend doing something like that. This isn't just about your car, your property, your free will, your freedom, your agency, or your friendship. This is about your safety. She has made you unsafe. Never talk to her again. Let everyone know what she did in a very public space so they will not be endangered by her.

Now, if he has the keys to your house too change your locks. I don't know if you can change the keys to your car but ask your car dealer or local mechanic if you can.

Contact a lawyer to see if you can take legal action against these two. I'm pretty sure what they did is illegal.

Luckily my house keys are on the same keyring as my work-related keys, which were with me at the time. The car key was the only one taken unless the other keyring was stolen at another time, which I don't think is likely. So I think I'm okay on that, hopefully.

I hadn't thought of it being illegal, so thanks for that suggestion. I'll have to look into it.

ayrt

That's good to hear. I would still be hypervigilant for a while to make sure your house has not been compromised in any case. Just notice if anything has moved that you haven't touched and so forth. If you have a tiny video camera I would put it in your car or home.

You're welcome. I hope it all works out for you.

On second thought, I think I might just go ahead and get my house locks changed. I have no idea how much that costs, but the idea of someone coming in when I'm not home and messing with my stuff or doing God knows what else, and having that hanging over my head would drive me insane.

I just don't understand what the hell either of them was/is thinking, but I guess I'll never understand crazy people. Ugh.

Do whatever makes you feel safe. If that means paying extra to change your house locks, do it.

That's just it. They probably weren't thinking. Some people have no concept of boundaries.

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Also, while you're getting all this worked out try to keep your car with the compromised locks in a safe place they can't get to so they can't do anything to it.

Unfortunately I don't have a garage and there's really nowhere safe I can park it that's within walking distance of my house but I can see the driveway from my window so hopefully I'll see if anything weird happens. I'll feel a lot better once I have some answers, though. I've left messages but unfortunately most businesses are already closed, so I'm going to try again first thing tomorrow morning.

Maybe you could tell your neighbors and ask them to watch out for you? Like, "Hey, someone stole the keys to my car. If you see anyone other than me around it can you call me and let me know? I would really appreciate it." It really depends on the relationship you have with your neighbors though.

Yeah, I've talked to my next door neighbor about it. She's the only one I really know, and she's a retired older lady so she's home all the time. She's agreed to keep an eye on things while I'm at work until this thing is resolved and let me know if she sees anything suspicious.

That's good to hear. It seems like you know what to do and you have all the bases covered. I wish you good luck.

NA

In the meantime, or if you can't get the locks on your car changed, you could get something like this:
http://www.amazon.com/Original-Club-Steering-Wheel-Lock/dp/B0000CBILL

(I have no idea if that's the best one out there or at a good price or whatever, I just grabbed the first link that came up under Google to give an example of what I'm talking about).

Basically, the idea is that it's a bar that goes across your wheel and requires another key to unlock in order to be able to steer the car.

I fully support the idea of going to the police if they don't give you your keys back - but even if they do, ewww, change the locks anyway. You can't trust these people.

No, not over-reacting. And if either of them do borrow it, that counts as grand theft auto. Have fun mentioning that to them.

1.) Ask for the keys back. If they refuse, inform the police and have them at least write a report. If you find out that your car is borrowed in the future, report it stolen. Don't fuck around. These people are not your friends.

2.) Talk to your insurance agent and see if you can get covered for the changing the locks.

3.) Seriously, fuck those "friends." Drop 'em like a dirty diaper and don't look back.

and it wasn't in a dangerous part of town or anything

Getting better. I'm only 50% sure this is a troll.

I haven't spoken to either of them since yesterday and don't intend to again. I'm going to see if I can get a friend to ask for the keys back so I don't have to talk to them.

I hadn't thought of the insurance angle, but that's a good point. My agent is a family friend so talking to her is probably a good idea. Hopefully they'll be able to do something.

Maybe I didn't word that in the best way. What I mean is that there are specific parts of town I would never drop someone off in no matter *how* pissed off I was at them, but this was a busy area with a lot of stores and people and I didn't feel like I was putting her in danger by leaving her there. I don't see the point in trolling, but if I was going to, I would definitely come up with something more interesting than this! (I mean, come on, there's not even any incest here! :P)

True. I guess if I were trolling I'd at least say my car was also my mother and I was disturbed at the thought of anyone but me turning her on.

Seriously though, I got what you were saying. All these troll-y posts have just got me feeling snippy and that extraneous information stood out to me as possible trollish story padding.

Haha. Also, ew.

Tbh, I mainly included that detail as partial justification for doing something that I felt guilty about. Like, I know I shouldn't have left her at all, but knowing it wasn't somewhere she was likely to get hurt made me feel at least slightly less like a horrible person.

I get where you're coming from, though. I feel like all the trolls here lately have got everyone skeptical about pretty much anything anyone posts anon.

the hell, dude? maybe i'm stupid but why does "and it wasn't in a dangerous part of town or anything" mean it's a troll? is that code for something i don't get?

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Nah, you're not stupid. It wasn't code for anything, she? (sorry, fingalsanteater, I'm not sure what gender you are!) was just skeptical of me including a seemingly odd detail after all the trolls we've had here lately.

As other people have told you, you're not overreacting, that was a fucked-up thing for both of them to do. Definitely involve the police and your insurance company, but in the short-term, if you're concerned about your car wandering off, you could get The Club or some other similar anti-theft device, which has its own key and prevents the car from being driven while it's attached to the steering wheel.

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