[ SECRET POST #2054 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2054 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

she's probably better off without you, if you'd break up with her because sometimes she might actually choose to do something else aside from hanging out with you

holy shit does this secret sound clingy, js

[insanenoodlyguy]

See, I'm waffling. It depends on how often it happened. If this was an occasional thing, OP is a whiny bitch. If it was a constant thing, he did well to get away from the obsessed nutjob.

You got me leaning towards your camp though.

[(Anonymous)]

I think the thing in question is the sex. I know if my monogamous committed SO decided she'd rather roleplay sex with someone who wasn't me, I don't know if I could trust her anymore, even if it was "innocuous" because I take commitment very seriously. I would consider it emotional cheating.

But that's just my way of seeing things. OP, your girl might have not thought it was important because she doesn't see RPing with a trusted friend as emotional cheating.

There's a talk I think you guys need to have on where you stand on the sex thing. You may not find that you're compatible there. In which case? Good riddance and on to someone who respects you.

[writerserenyty]

MTE. To be honest, while I personally don't know if I think it was cheating if I wad in that situation, rp-ing sex without agreement could be considered cheating.

[(Anonymous)]

Why are you assuming OP is male?

[otakugal15]

Well, there's a 50/50 chance of them being male. Why not? Just because LJ is home to many a female, why not?

:|

[kallanda_lee]

I think it depends a lot on context.

What if RP-ing sex was never discussed/agreed upon?
Then it's basically cheating.
What if it actually took away whole weekends away from couples-time?
In that case I would call it harmful for the relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think I'd be able to see it as cheating unless the person is actually getting off. If RPing sex is basically wank fodder for someone, then yeah, that's iffy, but that's also not what everyone RPs sex scenes for.

And what if the OP sees all of their partner's free time as couples-time? In that case I would agree that the partner taking me-time instead might be harmful for the relationship, but also that the relationship might be fundamentally unhealthy and not worth staying in.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it's cheating any more than watching porn or commissioning porn or something is.

[kallanda_lee]

I disagree there.

I think that if you're interacting with actual people in a sexual way, even if it's just as a character, it's different than porn.
That doesn't mean it shouldn't be acceptable in a relationship, but I think it's definitely that should be discussed before just doing it.

[insanenoodlyguy]

For some people, that alone is bad enough.

I don't feel that way personally, but some people do.

Though I definitely think being actively involved in a chat is more intimate then watching something as a third party.

[tabaqui]

This.

[(Anonymous)]

this, for reeeeaaal.

I have no idea why people get so fucking mad about their SOs indulging in something different every once in a while, especially if it's something as detached from reality as porn or RPing, for god's sake.

[world_eater]

If you're explicitely roleplaying smut tho it's basically cybersex except written in third person...

[seiberwing]

The feeling I'm getting off this secret isn't that it was the sex that was the problem, but that she was blowing off her partner for it.

[htebazytook]

You're basically saying anyone who reads or watches porn is cheating on their SO

[kallanda_lee]

No, I think RP is different in the sense that there is interaction with other actual people.

Just like I'd consider watching/chatting with a cam girl to be different from watching porn where there is no interaction.

[kittybeard]

I honestly cannot fathom how rping someone who...isn't you with another fictional character having sex is cheating.

[kallanda_lee]

I'm not saying I'd consider it cheating per se, but you're still the one 'playing' the character, and the other 'character' is still a real person.

[al28894]

Yep, me too.

[thene]

'something else' meaning RPing sex with other people. There may or may not be a huge amount of difference between that and cybering, which most people would regard as infidelity, or at least worthy of a veto clause. Different couples draw the line in different places, but really, I can't see what's out of line about OP's attitude here.

[(Anonymous)]

This.

[(Anonymous)]

And what if it wasn't just "sometimes?"

Partners in a couple need to maintain separate lives. It's healthy. But if you're spending little to no time with your partner and you're always choosing another activity over him/her, then you're communicating a lack of interest in the relationship, and there's no reason for your partner to stick around.

[velvet_mace]

Yeah, not so much. Part of being in a relationship is negotiating these things and if they can't be resolved then the relationship falls apart, like it did here. Role playing sex with other people is close enough to infidelity to trigger a lot of people's problems -- and choosing to role play sex with someone else over spending time with your S.O. when they ask is pretty much a kick in the proverbial in the relationship balls.

[(Anonymous)]

idk, I can get OP's point. I have an ex girlfriend I broke it off with because all she would do was RP or play WoW - even when it was couple date hanging time. I didn't appreciate all our time together being her on the computer and myself chilling in the bg.

So I can see why OP ended it if their ex was like that. On the otherhand, if OP is trying to drag ex out for things 24/7 and doesn't let ex have RP time then OP is in the wrong for not giving ex space