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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

haha i love people like you. keep on affirming everyone's notion that asexual = hasn't found the right person yet.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't be a douche. Sexuality can be fluid and I wish more people would understand that.

[cashay]

This =/

[ellie_oops]

The problem is people all of a sudden have a need to label themselves as *special* with fancy labels; asexual, grey-scale asexual, pansexual, demisexual, etc....

I find it ridiculous when someone says, "I'm asexual except when it comes to people with brown hair, green eyes and a good sense of humor." The only thing that it makes you is normal, because most people have a "type" or know what turns them on.

Sorry to say but giving yourself a special snowflake label about your sexuality does not make you a special snowflake. It just makes you a self centered, self important attention seeker.

Don't be a douche yourself and stop trying to pretend that anyone actually gives a fuck about your sex life.

[stainless]

I find it ridiculous when someone says, "I'm asexual except when it comes to people with brown hair, green eyes and a good sense of humor." The only thing that it makes you is normal, because most people have a "type" or know what turns them on.

I wouldn't quite say it like you have, but I have sometimes found myself conversing with asexuals who will say "I like sex, I just don't like people" or "I don't want sex, except with ________" and I have to admit, that sounds an awful lot like "sexual but picky." Or even, as you say, sexual and perfectly normal. Being sexual isn't about being desperately driven by endless lust or something.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, but life just isn't as clear cut as sexuality labels for most people. In a hyper-sexualised culture, is it really that surprising that a lot of young people (I don't know if the OP is, but this appears to be the demographic this happens to the most) who don't feel the same (or any) level of sex drive as their peers at the same time as their peers identify as asexual because it makes them feel there are other people like them?

A lot of people don't figure out stuff about their sexuality until way later in life than 16, 18, 20, whatever the age is when you're 'supposed' to have figured these thigns out. A lot of people's sexuality changes over the course of their life. Fucking deal.

[insanenoodlyguy]

I'd hesitate to put everybody in the "just don't know yet" box either.

There are gay and straight people out there who end up with somebody that doesn't fit in those boxes, because they just happened to find their exception.

While that does tend to make one reevaluate their own status, that doesn't necessarily mean they just assumed they were one thing because society.

[stainless]

This is part of why really young people labeling themselves anything kind of makes me uncomfortable a lot of the time. I'm not doubting that some people know their sexuality from very, very young, but I think a lot of people don't.

And I know people are going to have a problem with this, but I do think some young people who identify as asexual just are late bloomers, and it's really saddened me when I've watched friends realize they're not asexual who thought they were, because there's all this wrestling with identity and community membership and I just wonder... if they'd waited to decide whether or not "I don't want sex" was really an essential part of their identity until just a few years later, would they have felt so turned upside down to discover later that it's not?

I don't know. I don't mean I think no one is asexual. But I worry that there's a trend nowadays to embrace a sexuality-based identity of some kind at a very young age, and that concerns me. I knew some things about my sexual identity at a young age, but I didn't know others. And I don't think in my own case it was "fluidity," so much as it was... internalized homophobia, some, and some confusion in general and lack of experience making me unsure quite what I truly wanted.

[insanenoodlyguy]

yeah, they should just suppress their feels. Nobody wants this shit in their faces, keep it on the dl right?