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My mother is an only child and she's completely baffled and sort of horrified by my telling her this, so I need other people to back me up:

When you and your siblings go to the same school (usually elementary), you do not acknowledge each other. For all intents and purposes, you have no sibling. There is nothing malicious in this, it's just that it isn't "done". The only time you do pay any attention to a sibling at school would be in the case of them, I don't know, loosing a finger during handball, or something equally gruesome.

I want to add that I understand this is different for siblings with larger age gaps (say, 5 years and up), where the older sibling is somewhat obligated to look out for the younger. I don't think my sister (3 years older) ever so much as looked in my direction when we were in school, and I ignored her mutually.

This is true to my experience.

The exception was High School, where my younger brother (13 months between us) and I ended up having pretty much the same circle of friends and hanging out. Actually, even mostly during school we'd still not interact much and just hang out together with our friends outside of school.

Edit to clarify: if it matters there were 4 of us, each 1 year apart in age but a skip in the middle for grades (so example at one time we'd be in: 1st 2nd 4th 5th grades).

Edited 2012-08-25 01:41 (UTC)

I've never been in the same school as my older sibling, but that's pretty much how we treated each other on the bus (i.e. like the other didn't exist). I don't think there's anything bad about that... kids want to spend time with their friends and not with their annoying/bratty/mean sibling(s). *shrug*

This is the truth. Mostly. I didn't talk to my brother when he was a freshman and I was a senior (mostly because I never saw him and when I did I just nodded). But, my brothers are pretty tight and do everything together, so I'm sure they hung out at school when they got the chance.

Yeah, that was my experience. My bro was in the year below and we basically ignored each other through the whole of primary (then went to separate secondaries). I guess a year group at that age is a massive deal, and you have your own group of friends from your own class anyway.

Um.

Well, for some, i guess. I never did that.
My brother kind of ignored us three that were younger than him, but my sis and i acknowledged each other, etc.

My little brother was three years younger and we didn't share as much school time but....

To each their own.

It tends to be like that, yeah.

Remind her that it's not that you hate your sibling or anything, you just hang around them already at home so school is an opportunity to be more "you", with your friends and occupations.

Not really the case for me, but we're a little of a weird case. I'm 3 years older than my sister. We get along fairly well, and she would sometimes she would tag along with me and my friends to amusement parks and such cause it was easier on our mom. She would sometimes stop by and talk to me and my friends, sit with us during lunch.

Plus in the beginning of the year when it was novel, when I saw her in the halls I'd be all "omg it's mah baby sisteeeeeeeeeeer!" but that was expected teasing.

Really though, I've seen the range of interactions, from total avoidance to hanging out.

Guess I'm weird, my sister (3 years older) and I didn't do this; the only time we didn't deal with each other all that much was when we were both teenagers.

Outside of an occasional wave, no, my sister and I never interacted while in school together. Everyone knew we were sister and everything, but like you said, it's kind of understood that the other just kind of doesn't exist. Almost of feeling of not knowing them when you see them in the hall, even though you're related. It's weird because when you get home, everything goes back to normal sister stuff.

It all depends. On-and-off acknowledgement for me and my 2-year older sister throughout our schools and even mutual camps and summer trips (even though we'd be sorted apart anyway by age). Acknowledgement became stronger and more often the older we got. "No interfering" was probably a better way to put it for us, since even though we had a few shared interests and extracurriculars, we also had very different friend groups that tended to side-eye each other a lot and generally had different goals and activities, but there was never any criticism on either side.

i was never like that, but i know most people are.

my brother is 3 years younger and he was a tad obnoxious and ill-behaved as a child so i tried to watch him a little, and i got REALLY defensive when people so much as looked at him the wrong way. in high school we even had a class together, and we talked all the time.

granted i didn't have any friends for a variety of reasons which probably played into why i paid attention to my bro, but whatevs.

My brother and I (2 years apart) didn't ignore each other entirely, but we almost never spoke, either. Whenever we crossed paths during school, we would just kind of give each other a little nod. You know the one I'm talking about.

I never went to school with my siblings (or stepsiblings) but this is how my friends were with their siblings if I recall. Like they saw school as a time to spend with their friends, whereas they can spend time with their siblings at home/with family.

I have three olders brother, all of whom basically ignored me while we were growing up, I had never exchanged a meaningful conversation in our whole lives. To be fair, the first two seems to hate their immediate family, and the last one was spoiled manchild who bullies everyone. Relatives keep insisting that siblings have to keep tabs on each other, like all the time. Lay off, man, they dudes hate us.

My brother's two years younger than me, and we never acknowledged each other in school. The only real exceptions were for religious, family-oriented things, like school seders (Jewish school), where families had to sit together, and when he started 'big school' and I got to play tour guide.

At any rate, I went to a different school when I was in fifth grade and he was in third, and then we went to different high schools, so there wasn't much time to interact in the first place.

My brother and I (2 grades apart) did this as well. If we passed each other in the hallway, the most we did was nod or grin at each other (unless there was something urgent).
It got to the point that I occasionally got the reaction "What?! He's your brother? But you never even talk!" from my classmates and my brother and I had a good laugh about it at home (we're pretty close otherwise; we're even sharing a flat at university).

True and not true.

When there is a big age gap, yeah, because the siblings tend to be at very different points in their life. However, any siblings I've known that were close age in, are always interacting with each other.
For example; my boyfriend's sister (2 years younger) is his best friend and they were more or less inseparable till university. My best friend's sister (1 year older) was her greatest enemy, they were constantly fighting, in and out of school.
Those are two specific examples, but other than that, most people I went to school interacted with their siblings if they were close age constantly.

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