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You tell someone, immediately. This is beyond keeping trust. Others may have been his victims as well as your best friend. This is NOT something you keep to yourself. Though your friend says she is ok, I have many doubts that that is true. She should not be having any relationship with her brother. He belongs in prison and needs to stay there for a very, very long time. Please, please, please tell someone who can bring him to justice and get him away from children!!! I cannot stress this enough: your friend's and other children's lives are at stake, and you can do something about it! So do it!

As someone who was molested by a boy a few years older than me as a kid, I EXTREMELY disagree with you. It sounds like her brother was a minor, too, when this was going on. We don't know what happened on his side of things--he might have also been a victim of sexual abuse, for all we know.

Also, dragging this up without her friend's permission could be very damaging, IMO. When I told a friend about my abuse, he blackmailed me into telling my parents because he was concerned about me (by threatening to never talk to me again if I didn't). While his intentions were very, very good, his actions were hurtful because he was taking power and control away from me. The last thing I wanted as a victim who had already felt like I had little agency was not even having a choice over if, when and how I discussed it with my parents.

If OP feels like she really does have to tell someone, then at the very least I'd strongly encourage her to go to her friend with her concerns FIRST. I would be very, very, very, VERY upset if I confided in someone about this only to have them tell someone else without my permission.

AYRT: Yes, that is exactly what I am getting at here. I want to be respectful of her wishes and her privacy, and I don't want to drag up this thing and make it painful for her and her brother again when they have worked so hard to heal themselves and their relationship. But at the same time it is very difficult to carry information this heavy alone. I don't feel like I have to tell anyone for the sake of anyone's safety, but it's just weird having this information. I just don't really know how to feel about it. I am not going to treat her any differently, obviously, but this information is just weighing on my heart.

I'm really sorry. It's just that hearing about things like this, I just want to help. I truly mean no disrespect to the friend. I just feel so, so bad.

OP: <3 It's ok. You are well meaning. I too was shocked and disturbed, that's why I'm here! It's a pretty scary topic.

I wish you and your friend the best of luck. My prayers go to the both of you. <3

AYRT: <3 Thank you.

DA from before--I also understand why you'd want to help and feel horrible over it, so it's fine. I know this sort of thing is really difficult to deal with...

Yes, disregard the victim and what they want. That sounds like a great idea.

Don't get me wrong, I think the guy should be investigated but the victim comes first. Always.

I understand. Situations like this are very sad and emotionally charged. There's no harm done. :)

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