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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-09-27 06:43 pm

[ SECRET POST #2095 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2095 ⌋

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Re: OP here

(Anonymous) 2012-09-28 10:15 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I'd guess part of the problem is that it being objectively recognised as "good" and becoming popular contradicts some "rule" about yourself that you internalised in childhood? And breaking these rules always makes us anxious, because we think bad things will happen, or we'll be cast adrift with no map.

It's okay: I do understand. But once you recognise what the rule is, you can start analysing it, see who made you think it was true, see the evidence in your life that contradicts it, and slowly start pushing yourself to deliberately break the rule and see that nothing bad happens. Or that even the bad things that do happen at not catastrophic, and you can cope with them.

But be gentle with yourself. Keep pushing to break rules, but don't beat yourself up over them, and give yourself little rewards (like doing something cosy and relaxing) for your work, because it will make you anxious at first.