[ SECRET POST #2097 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2097 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

But you can't help it if it's that easy and they'll never know.

I don't think you realize the extent to which this single sentence can be used to justify awful things.

Now, what you're currently using it to justify isn't "awful;" it's just, well, very creepy and stalker-ish. However, the fact that something is "easy" does not make it okay to do and does not absolve you of the need to exercise self-control.

You can help it. You just don't want to.

[(Anonymous)]

You just don't want to.

Yes, you're right. I didn't want to. See my anwer above.

[(Anonymous)]

"Having his number, along with his address, are the only connections I have allowed myself to have with him, because I need them."

No, you do not. Clearly you don't know where to stop. Delete them and stop being so fucking creepy and delusional before you cross the line and scare the shit out of the poor person you are stalking and get yourself arrested.

Imagine how successful you'll be at getting into college/getting a job when you have a criminal record for stalking.

[(Anonymous)]

Clearly you don't know where to stop.

Right. I'm on the edge. Having his number and knowing his address means I'm immediately going to go camp out down the street from his place and take pictures of him while I make a hundred hang up calls an hour to his cell, disrupting his life so much that if he finds out it's me, he'll look at me with fear and loathing - achieving exactly the kind of relationship with him that I DON'T want. Oh, except for the fact that in the two years I've known this information, I have done NONE of those things and never had the urge to. Not even close. I respect his right to privacy, whether anyone believes that or not.

But having this information fullfills a need of mine, to have a connection with him that I wouldn't otherwise have. That's enough for me. I don't need to do anything with them.

[(Anonymous)]

[i]I respect his right to privacy, whether anyone believes that or not.[/i]

Except... you kind of don't. If you really respected his privacy, you would've asked him for his phone number and/or adress, and backed away if he had said no.

I was stalked a couple of years ago. My stalker somehow managed to dig out the same info that you did - my number and adress. They never drove by my home - not that I know of, anyway - but they did bomb me with text messages and phone calls every week. And I'm pretty sure they didn't want me to be scared shitless of them, either. They wanted a [i]connection[/i].

[(Anonymous)]

Exactly respecting someone's privacy does not equal seeking out and retaining private information. You're delusional. I just hope that you don't hurt him or his family.

Get help.

[(Anonymous)]

They had to pay for the guy's address. Any personal information that you have to pay to get, even if it was only $2, is information that you probably shouldn't have.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't disagree with you, and I didn't feel right about it when I did it. But it's not something I can unknow once I've gotten it, even if I threw it out. I've got a good memory. But as I keep repeating, I've only ever driven by his place one time, and I haven't done it again since. Nor am I going to in the future.

[(Anonymous)]

but they did bomb me with text messages and phone calls every week.

Something I have NEVER done. So while I know what I've done isn't exactly right, please don't lump me in with someone who spams you with texts and calls. I wouldn't do that. Ever.

[(Anonymous)]

Something I have NEVER done. So while I know what I've done isn't exactly right, please don't lump me in with someone who spams you with texts and calls. I wouldn't do that. Ever.

I wasn't lumping you in the the same category. What I'm saying is that your behaviour rings a bell. You might not be sending him creepy text messages at night, but the respect for his privacy went out of the window the second you got a hold of his adress and phone number. Just because the guy is blissfully ignorant of all of this doesn't mean that what you're doing is harmless.

Also, thank you for telling me that I spend 6 months of my life terrified to pick up my phone because I was scared of receiving "spam".

[(Anonymous)]

Just, er, just gonna leave this here then...

Because Servo always knows what to say. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tv0S2gzcEeU)

[(Anonymous)]

You DROVE past his house. You are getting close to that line between fan and stalker. Please think about getting help if you are that desperate to have some part of him in your life.

[(Anonymous)]

I tried to drive by my celeb crush's house once, but got VERY lost. In addition, he lives in a rather exclusive area and my beat up old car really stood out. I was so freaked by the experience I'd never do it again.

[(Anonymous)]

Omg. I drove past his house, I didn't slow to crawl and take pictures, nor did I stop and try to climb in the nearest window. I drove past. In two years it's the most I've ever done that I'd consider skeevy. And I haven't done it again because it's a bit too skeevy. How come no one reads that part??

[(Anonymous)]

"to have a connection with him that I wouldn't otherwise have."

This line of thinking is unhealthy at its base. You want a connection with someone who doesn't know you want it or even has contact with you? Admiring someone and NEEDING a connection are not the same thing. Admit it or not, you ARE dangerously close to the line there.

[(Anonymous)]

You want a connection with someone who doesn't know you want it or even has contact with you?

Trying to explain my history with him would be too much like trying to justify my actions, and I don't feel like I have to do that, but I can't let this comment go by. You're a stranger on the internet and you think he's some dudebro I sit next to on the train every day or something. It's not like that - we know each other, we talk almost every day, we've had personal conversations and a few moments of connection. It's just that it's like getting a thimble-ful of water when you want a good long gulp of it. I'm impatient, waiting for him to get where I'm already at.

[(Anonymous)]

I respect his right to privacy, whether anyone believes that or not.

No. You. Don't.

You went searching for private information about him. You paid to find out private information about him. You've driven by his house. You are practicing lies to keep him from finding out about the fact that you dug up his info and drove by his house.

You don't respect him at all. If you respected him, then you would wait for him to divulge the information that you've sought, because you would understand that it's his to give, not yours to take.

The only thing that you care about is the fact that you have a crush, and that this makes you feel like you "need" things from this person. You don't need anything from him. And he doesn't need to give you anything.

If I were him, I'd stay far, far away from you. Your thought process indicates that you've already gone past the line, and that you have absolutely no concept of what is and is not acceptable as far as goes romantic entanglements. I hope, for his sake, that the two of you never get together. And I hope, for your sake, that you realize how crazy you sound and get help.