[ SECRET POST #2115 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2115 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Elementary]


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[To Aru Majutsu no Index]


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[Ghostbusters 2]


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[One Piece]


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[Teen Wolf]


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[Big Time Rush]


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[Sherlock]


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[Pitch Perfect]


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[Blue Exorcist & Supernatural]


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[Homestuck]


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[Rose Byrne]


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[khaos komix]


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[Once Upon a Time]


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[The White Buffalo]


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[Teen Wolf]


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[Dawn of the Dead]


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[CSI: Miami]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Personally, I'd find it less stressful; I'm not comfortable with monogamy precisely because I don't like the idea of being all things to one person and vice versa. (I'm not so good with hate sex, though; can't quite imagine incorporating that quadrant into my life.)

[(Anonymous)]

A monogamous relationship doesn't necessarily entail being all things to one person. In fact, I would consider that to be extraordinarily unhealthy.

I am married to one person, and what we expect from one another is a combination of basic respect and what the other is able to give. We both recognize that there are some things that each of us must get from outside the relationship. It's just that each of us prioritizes the other, and neither of us has sex with anyone else.

Grant you, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with not being monogamous. It may be right for me, but it's certainly not right for everyone. I'm only saying that being with one person might not be precisely what you think it is.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I'm only saying that being with one person might not be precisely what you think it is.

Most of my romantic relationships have been monogamous, actually, and I definitely felt pressure while in them to be my partner's lover and best friend and drill sergeant and family. Maybe I've just been dating the wrong people, though. :-(

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I think the operative phrase is "feel pressure." I would say that my partner is my lover and my best friend simply because that's how our actual relationship has progressed, and because that's how I honestly perceive him. Neither of us feels like we have to be either of those things; we just are. As for the "drill sergeant" and "family" bit, we are only drill sergeants for one another when we're specifically asked to be, and family encompasses far more than just ourselves.

Whenever you feel like you have to be something to someone, it's not a good situation. In my experience, when a relationship is healthy and mutually beneficial (whether it's traditionally monogamous or something else), one's role in it feels completely natural.

[(Anonymous)]

I was mostly joking but man idk I have a really hard time approaching people I'm interested in I couldn't deal with it if I had to do it four times (or five I guess since ashen requires three people?). I think it would be easier in some ways, like maybe in some ways it would be healthier if we considered hate-attraction a thing that existed and their were conventions for having that kind of relationship. And people wouldn't presume things about myself and my best male friend, I could just say "We're pale." But anyway...yeah.

[(Anonymous)]

I really don't think having hate-attraction as a socially recognized relationship would be healthier at all. *Especially* because, since it's specifically a sexual relationship, there is a very strong chance that some, even many of these relationships, will lead to children.

Trolls can have this complicated relationship structure because they don't participate in raising their offspring; for human children, such a relationship between their parents would be incredibly damaging. (And before anyone says "birth control," 1.) Birth control isn't a hundred percent, 2.) even if it were, people forget and/or use it incorrectly all the time; 3.) an "accidentally-on-purpose" pregnancy could provide excellent endless opportunities to stick it to your hated rival for either a male or female.)

[(Anonymous)]

Probably not...but I'm kind of imagining this as an alternate reality (and yeah, I wasn't thinking about kids). There are probably multiple ways it could go none of them would look anything like our real world.