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fandomsecrets2012-10-17 06:42 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-10-17 06:42 pm
[ SECRET POST #2115 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2115 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Elementary]
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[To Aru Majutsu no Index]
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[Ghostbusters 2]
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[One Piece]
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[Teen Wolf]
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[Big Time Rush]
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[Sherlock]
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[Pitch Perfect]
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[Blue Exorcist & Supernatural]
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[Homestuck]
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[Rose Byrne]
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[khaos komix]
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[Once Upon a Time]
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[The White Buffalo]
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[Teen Wolf]
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[Dawn of the Dead]
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[CSI: Miami]
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-17 11:46 pm (UTC)(link)I am married to one person, and what we expect from one another is a combination of basic respect and what the other is able to give. We both recognize that there are some things that each of us must get from outside the relationship. It's just that each of us prioritizes the other, and neither of us has sex with anyone else.
Grant you, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with not being monogamous. It may be right for me, but it's certainly not right for everyone. I'm only saying that being with one person might not be precisely what you think it is.
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-18 01:21 am (UTC)(link)I'm only saying that being with one person might not be precisely what you think it is.
Most of my romantic relationships have been monogamous, actually, and I definitely felt pressure while in them to be my partner's lover and best friend and drill sergeant and family. Maybe I've just been dating the wrong people, though. :-(
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(Anonymous) 2012-10-18 03:03 am (UTC)(link)I think the operative phrase is "feel pressure." I would say that my partner is my lover and my best friend simply because that's how our actual relationship has progressed, and because that's how I honestly perceive him. Neither of us feels like we have to be either of those things; we just are. As for the "drill sergeant" and "family" bit, we are only drill sergeants for one another when we're specifically asked to be, and family encompasses far more than just ourselves.
Whenever you feel like you have to be something to someone, it's not a good situation. In my experience, when a relationship is healthy and mutually beneficial (whether it's traditionally monogamous or something else), one's role in it feels completely natural.