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So I just went on a date the other day with this guy who is super sweet and soft spoken but is it weird to hold hands on the first date..? I wanted to give him a hug when he dropped me off but we were in the car and I didn't want it to be awkward.

/dating fail

It really depends on the people involved. For example, I've gone on first dates with people where we've ended up cuddling without it getting awkward, and first dates where there was no physical contact at all.

Honestly, if you want to do something like that, but you're not sure if it's okay just ask. If they're okay with it they'll tell you, and if not you won't have to keep doing the 'I want to do X...but what if they hate it!' dance.

Like above anon said, if you're sure, it's always best to ask and make sure they're on the same page as you. Asking usually comes off as really cute/sweet too. :)

*if you're not sure

Like the anon above me said, ask them. If you're already on a date, it's unlikely they'd be weirded out to find out you want to hold hands/cuddle/whatever, and it avoids the awkward "do I signal? Are they getting it? What should I do?" part.

I haven't been on a date as such in a while, but I've been a couple of parties lately where I was hitting it off with someone there, and at a lull in the conversation just went "I kind of want to kiss you now, is that okay?" and in both cases it worked, and wasn't at all awkward. So I recommend the direct approach.

So in your particular case, in the car I would say "is it cool if I hug you now?" and if yes, voila! If the answer is no, he'd probably give at least some explanation, and you can find out what he is and isn't comfortable with.

It's not weird at all. You really have to go with the signals you get from the other person.

Like...do they seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? Are they holding your gaze for a longer period of time than you typically experience? Are they leaning into you or standing/sitting close to you? If your answer is "yes" to at least two out of three of these questions, then it's a fair bet that holding hands or giving a hug is acceptable.

In your case, is it wrong that you didn't hug him? Not at all! It's all about what you feel comfortable with. If you go on a second date, however, I'd definitely suggest that you hug him (if nothing else) to at least demonstrate continuing interest.

As everyone else has said, it depends on the person, and if you're unsure, ask. Also try and keep an eye out for body language? I'm admittedly someone who would be kind of weirded out by hand-holding on the first date, and sometimes people don't really get the message even when I am full on cringing.

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