[ SECRET POST #222 ]

[shahni.livejournal.com]

⌈ Secret Post #222 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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I'm just abusing this thing really. Whee boredom. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ~!

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Comments

[pimmy.livejournal.com]

20. Why do people act like being insecure is some sort of selfish thing? its REALLY hard to just stop being insecure. I can understand that it's annoying if people post the same kinds of memes over and over, but I know I probably wouldn't even notice that I was doing it. Sure, common logic says that if youre on their f-list, you like them, but an insecure persons mind is REALLY bad about that kinda logic. I always get annoyed at my friends who seem to be so appalled at the notion of saying something nice just to make a friend feel a little happier, prompted or not.

[twelve.livejournal.com]

If you're referring to me, I never said anything about insecurity = selfishness. I know I'm selfish, and I'm not half as insecure as love meme-h0rs. My lack of consideration toward these people's feelings and my annoyance with their supposed insecurity are an obvious testament to my selfishness.

Sure, common logic says that if youre on their f-list, you like them, but an insecure persons mind is REALLY bad about that kinda logic.

It depends on how insecure someone is. I think that everyone is insecure to some degree, but if a person is so insecure that they can't or are unable to believe other people when being repeatedly told that, yes, they are loved and appreciated, then I think that person might have self-esteem issues that need to be addressed. Love memes alone aren't going to do crap to make that person feel better about themselves.

I'm not "appalled" at the notion myself, I just think it's fairly useless to say these nice things over and over and over again. I'll do it maybe three times, but then I'm not going to bother anymore. If a person is really insecure about how appreciated or loved they are, I doubt my repeating praises to them is really going to make them any less insecure (or, in the long run, happier). How do I know that? Well, they'd just ask for their flist to fill out the same memes again next week.

[pimmy.livejournal.com]

ah, yea i probably generalized a bit there from the other posts that were bugging me, sorry bout that XD

but yeah. I get what you're saying, i've known a few people that are just hopeless cases and I know I used to be similar. Unfortunatly its a really slow process for some people, especially if theyve never been happy with themselves or don't even realize the reason theyre constantly doing those things, because it becomes such a habit to look for acceptance.

ive found it best when my friends confronted me about it though. feeling bad for a while from a (delicate)scolding is much better than feeling good for a day from praise.


not really sure what im rambling about anymore!