[ SECRET POST #2142 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2142 ⌋

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Comments

[inkdust]

Why don't we stop thinking about it as "losing" something

Hear hear!

A first experience can (and for me personally, should) be a significant thing, but shouldn't it be about the value of that experience - as something to gain, rather than lose?

[deadtree]

yeah really. It should be like any other experience-- you want it to be good and "right" the first time, but if it sucks you can always try again. I would hope :p

[diet_poison]

if it sucks

i c what u did thurr

[deadtree]

you know, I was torn between that and "if you fuck it up" but I decided to take the high road.

[stainless]

That.

[(Anonymous)]

Totally agreed. And it's really not that dramatic a change in your life - you're exactly the same person you were an hour ago before you had sex. I just don't get why it's a big deal either way.

Sex is something a lot of people really enjoy and seek out. Other people don't care about it that much. Either way, I find the sort of fetishy superstitions people have about virginity to be creepy as hell.

[inkdust]

So agreed about the creepy. Purity and all that.

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly don't get why virginity is even a THING that so many people are so obsessed with.

We don't have a special word for people who've never eaten sushi or never been to Berlin or never had a child or never driven a car. It's just, okay, you've never had sex. All that means is that there's this one thing you've never done. It doesn't make you a special category of person, either in a good way or a bad way. There's nothing especially admirable or important about either having had sex or NOT having had it--how is it different from the other things I've listed?

[(Anonymous)]

my guess is that sexually repressing women and shaming them has been a pretty effective way to control them, so making a big deal out of having sex for the first time plays into that

men are also controlled the same way, but by being congratulated instead of side-eyed

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[inkdust]

Not to mention its definition becoming more and more arbitrary. I also love your examples.