[ SECRET POST #2142 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2142 ⌋

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Notes:

Sorry it's late!

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 066 secrets from Secret Submission Post #306.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[elephantinegrace]

Who gives a damn about whether a woman's a virgin or not? Honestly, besides STDs, some of which are hereditary, there's no actual benefit or drawback to virginity. Why don't we stop thinking about it as "losing" something and think about it as just any other activity?

[inkdust]

Why don't we stop thinking about it as "losing" something

Hear hear!

A first experience can (and for me personally, should) be a significant thing, but shouldn't it be about the value of that experience - as something to gain, rather than lose?

[deadtree]

yeah really. It should be like any other experience-- you want it to be good and "right" the first time, but if it sucks you can always try again. I would hope :p

[diet_poison]

if it sucks

i c what u did thurr

[deadtree]

you know, I was torn between that and "if you fuck it up" but I decided to take the high road.

[stainless]

That.

[(Anonymous)]

Totally agreed. And it's really not that dramatic a change in your life - you're exactly the same person you were an hour ago before you had sex. I just don't get why it's a big deal either way.

Sex is something a lot of people really enjoy and seek out. Other people don't care about it that much. Either way, I find the sort of fetishy superstitions people have about virginity to be creepy as hell.

[inkdust]

So agreed about the creepy. Purity and all that.

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly don't get why virginity is even a THING that so many people are so obsessed with.

We don't have a special word for people who've never eaten sushi or never been to Berlin or never had a child or never driven a car. It's just, okay, you've never had sex. All that means is that there's this one thing you've never done. It doesn't make you a special category of person, either in a good way or a bad way. There's nothing especially admirable or important about either having had sex or NOT having had it--how is it different from the other things I've listed?

[(Anonymous)]

my guess is that sexually repressing women and shaming them has been a pretty effective way to control them, so making a big deal out of having sex for the first time plays into that

men are also controlled the same way, but by being congratulated instead of side-eyed

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[inkdust]

Not to mention its definition becoming more and more arbitrary. I also love your examples.

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting that you specify speaking of women when the secret doesn't. Yes, it is a woman being quoted, but there's no specifics on who she believes being a virgin is not practical for.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, but it's a show aimed at women, so chances are about 99.9% that's the demographic she was aiming the comment at.

[(Anonymous)]

Just saying it's interesting. I bet when the topic of virginity comes up 90% of people will automatically assume you're talking about women. Virgins seem to only matter if they're female.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a woman virgin, and I sure as hell want to marry a male virgin.

[diet_poison]

Me too!

[(Anonymous)]

just a wee bit harder to prove a man is still a virgin.

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on your definition of "virgin".

[(Anonymous)]

Let me guess, you're one of those people who figures the hymen always tears during piv intercourse, and you also figure that if it tears it can not heal. All vaginas are the same!

Let's not even get into the hymen tearing BEFORE then, or the notion that someone might lose their virginity without having piv intercourse.