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fandomsecrets2012-11-14 06:07 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-11-14 06:07 pm
[ SECRET POST #2143 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2143 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Ariel Winter/Modern Family]
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[Chrono Crusade]
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[Shezow]
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[Desperate Romantics]
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[Rugby union, Brad Barritt / Mouritz Botha]
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[999/Virtue's Last Reward]
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[Fringe]
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[Homestuck]
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[ASoIaF/Jack White]
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[Revenge]
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[Crash Bandicoot]
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[scarlett johansson/ryan reynolds]
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[Marvel Cinematic Universe, Journey Into Mystery 2011]
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[Tokyo Dogs]
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[Fate/stay night]
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[Inazuma Eleven]
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[Avatar: The Last Airbender]
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[Suits]
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[Once Upon a Time]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 043 secrets from Secret Submission Post #306.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ], [ 1 2 - ships it ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: tw: rape, incest
Is the mother of this person generally a happy person, who copes will with life? Or no? Is the sibling in question the same? Is there ugly, underlying tensions and issues that make life hard for one or both of these people, or in general is everything pretty all right?
If the mother/sibling seem to be all right, dealing well with life, and happy, then do your best to forget. If this truly happened, it's an ugly, unforgivable thing. But it's possible (just very slightly possible) that the survivor has done their best to put it aside and move on, and live their life as best and as happy as they can. If that's so, then support them, be glad for them, and try not to think about this.
If it's not so - if there has always been tension, unhappiness, depression, etc.... Then...you might actually suggest counseling or therapy or even just *talking*, without bringing this possible incident into it at all. I know you don't want to announce your thoughts over the dinner table, but if the survivor has been struggling for years, letting them know that you're there, you support them, and you are willing to help them - without saying 'i know your secret!!' - might be the best thing you can do.
I'm sorry you have this issue to deal with. Please try not to let it overwhelm you.
Re: tw: rape, incest
(Anonymous) 2012-11-15 01:40 pm (UTC)(link)There's always been tension from our mother, particularly when it involved this particular sibling. The most likely explanation (as a few anons in thread seem to be calling for), and the one that I assumed for most of my life, is that she simply hated my sibling for no reason whatsoever. It's when you factor in a lot of other little things that it starts looking more like there's a possible reason.
We did therapy. from what I remember, we as kids were generally told "She's your mother and you should give her a break", which got us nowhere.
Re: tw: rape, incest
I'm sorry that your family has had to deal (or not deal) with this.