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So I decided to come out to my dad as transgender this weekend since I'm going to see a doctor next week to start the diagnose progress. Both of these events scare me to death (can't breathe, don't know whether to cry or throw up, and for Heaven's sake I should be sleeping, I have school tomorrow)

So what do you do when you're scared to calm yourself down?

Usually I listen to music. Sometimes to the point of falling asleep with my iPod. I recommend Port Blue, it's really soothing.

Good luck, anon!

Exercise enough to get a bit tired so that I'll sleep better, and watch cartoons.

Got any cartoon recs? Since I have never really watched all that much cartoons. Might as well start now.

Well, there too many to mention, but when it comes to comedy, I've always had a soft spot for some of the older series, such as pre-1960's Donald Duck, Bugs Bunny, the Flintstones, and the Smurfs. Of the newer stuff I've mostly watched adventure series, like DC's and Marvel's, and Transformers.

I listen to calming music, watch "comfort food" series (series I enjoy without a lot of drama), maybe play a video game to distract myself, talk it out with a friend, etc. I might either write down my feelings in a journal or write some sort of fiction with a character going through a similar situation and things working out OK, but I'm not sure if that would help in your situation since it would mean more dwelling on what's worrying you.

I hope everything goes well, anon.

for coming out/admission things, i feel horrible and blurt it out (when i feel more Horrible than Reality and am thus detached enough to get it out) and after it's out i suddenly find myself much more stable and able to cope with any consequences than i could have imagined

good luck anon!

OP here:
I totally get you. I came out to my mom after a huge fight, when I just had stopped caring, so I wrote her a letter and hid in the woods for four hours.
I was kinda hoping my business with dad would go more smoothly. I'll probably just start crying before I can tell him anything, but... I'm hoping I don't have to go to the woods to hide this time.

I have a few different methods. One that helps me is to surround myself with familiar things- a favorite book or game, a nostalgic song, a shirt I really like and have had forever, a stuffed animal from when I was a kid, things that remind of my favorite characters, anything like that. I just distract myself with comforting things as much as possible, and try to relax that way.

Also, anon, I hope things go well for you! I know how terrifying that can be.

I try to do multiple things at once to thoroughly distract myself -- nothing super-complicated, just listening to music (with lyrics) and reading fic, or watching a movie and playing solitaire or similar game.

if you're feeling up to it, try (literally) running off your nervousness. exercise helps work the edge off of stress for me (doesn't seem to work for irrational anxiety, though).
good luck to you, anon! i hope your dad takes it well, and i wish you happiness in your transition :)

Look at all the good parts of what is scaring me.

Like, doctors are scary but they can help me find out the process for things and what will happen and why each bit happens. I find the more knowledge I have about something, the better I am able to deal with it because then I can go X is happening because Y

If you have any readily available, grab some food or drink that you tend to think of as comfort food. Also, watching something that's silly or lighthearted or that you associate with happy times always helps. I tend to always throw on shows and movies that I loved as a kid. Star Trek IV is my ultimate comfort movie.

Good luck with talking to your dad, anon! I hope everything goes well and you're able to relax a bit between now and then.

I've never come out to my parents because, well, I'm terrified to. I seriously wish it goes well for you.

Coming out to my sisters though, was mildly scary, and different with each. For one, it was the judging aspect that worried me since she's rather conservative, and scarily old-fashioned regarding gender roles, so I ended up telling her along with a host of other problems and things to admit to. One thing among many things, right? With the other sister, it was mostly about not leaving her out of my loop tbh.

as far as when I get into my other panic modes though, I try to have or plan an exit strategy. Can I hit-and-run some information bomb? Can I have actual duties/work to attend to, to avoid the awkward followup? Yeah. I don't have any good advice :(

Cocaine

I have no advice on the not being scared thing. (My personal strategy seems to be letting my subconscious convince the rest of me that I don't actually care, or I fail to deal and don't sleep)

But I just wanted to say good luck, and I hope everything works out!

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