[ SECRET POST #2150 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2150 ⌋

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Re: How do you cope with shady things your family do?

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My extended family on my dad's side is like the epitome of "big dysfunctional successful family", so the way we cope is ignoreignoreignore, lots of transparent lies and excuses that all parties involved know are lies but which function as code for "that's bad/you're in trouble/don't tell me anymore/don't get me involved/okay I'll get involved as long as X", and discuss using carefully-coded casual insinuations that are met with an answering insinuation to show understanding, and ensuing conversations carried out entirely through innuendo. Utterly ridiculous, but actually not at all ineffective.

So far we've managed to pretty successfully help my grandmother deal with massive alcohol problems after my grandfather died, my uncle not admitting to but almost certainly having an affair with a 20-something-year-old while caring for his dying wife and then marrying said 20-year-old a year after her death but not telling anyone for two years, deal with an aunt who had an affair with her psychologist who wound up losing his license, bribe my other aunt's husband's parents to stop doing some undefined black market thing, deal with a cousin who was on heroin and in massive debt as a result, and convince another uncle to end a 10-year marriage to my aunt, who was chronically alcoholic, painkiller-addicted at various times, a kleptomaniac, destroyed his property regularly (at least, pretty much everything he inherited and most gifts his family gave him), and most likely hit him as well.

And we did it all without once talking about any of it openly as a family! Um, high score, I guess? I'm sure some frank and open conversations happen, but if they do they're all one-on-one in secret without planning or anticipation with a gag order on ever openly discussing them with multiple other family members. It sounds more confusing than it is.