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I have every reason to believe my brother has inherited his father's mental issues, or at the very least is very, very emotionally disturbed, and is self medicating with illegally obtained drugs. My mother also believes he has mental/emotional issues but refuses to even think about getting outside help because she believes in natural cures. She defends her inaction because he isn't physically abusive yet and enables and encourages him to make us the victims of his rages and anger. She's started taking out her frustrations on me in these weird mind games and I can't live like this again so I'm leaving. But that's still my little brother in there somewhere.

Is there a way to get him help without involving authorities? Because my mother is letting me take my little sister with me and I'm afraid if CPS gets involved they'll both end up in foster care. And however it makes me sound I'd rather let my brother go untreated until my sister is old enough to be legally emancipated than let her go into the system.

Is he enrolled in school? You might be able to get him help that way, especially if the school has a social worker, a Communities In Schools volunteer, or a counselor who actually has a background in counseling (although that last is pretty rare these days).

This all came to a head because I found out today she's letting him drop out because they don't let him listen to music in class. I didn't want to go to his counselor because she'd been pretty terrible to me and told me all my problems were because I hadn't found Jesus when I was in school. I'd been holding out hope that one of his teachers would recognize his behavior for what it was instead of just writing him up. Now I don't see an end to this. I think this is exactly why my mother is letting me take my sister, to buy my silence.

Your mom's behavior sounds very frustrating and awful. I'm really sorry you and your siblings have to deal with that, anon.

I wish I knew what to say that would really help out but I don't have much experience in situations like this.

I really, really hope he's able to get help for his sake and everyone else's. Definitely encourage him to confide in someone he trusts who might be able to help him. He needs counseling and very possibly safe, legal medication. I don't really know what to say about the authorities thing, and if that is a really big issue then I guess try to make sure if he does talk to someone it's not someone who will run to the police? I don't know what kind of relationship you have with him or if any of this is actually helpful, so I'm really sorry if I'm just rambling pointlessly. =/

Please keep us posted.

Are you legally an adult and/or emancipated? Before you move out, contact a lawyer and have your mother sign over custody of your sister to you. That way she can't say you kidnapped your sister down the road. This way you are legally protected and have custodial rights to your sister.

Next, get you and your sister out of that situation. Then contact social services about your brother. Be prepared to lose your mother and brother for reporting them.

Wow, I don't know what to say. Do you know what his father's mental issues are? Maybe it's possible to research what professionals do with those issues and see what might help your brother right now, even at home. As for his rage and anger, is it at all possible for him to channel it in a way that won't harm your family? Art, music, breakdancing, martial arts, physical work, whatever, as long as he gets a chance to calm down. Also, see if it's possible to phone a mental health help lines for advice.

No matter what happens, I second getting parental rights or guardianship over your sister. In case everything goes pear shaped, you having rights over your sister should help her avoid the system.

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