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⌈ Secret Post #2187 ⌋

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I'm going to give some unpopular advice:

You may not have been raped.

What am I saying with that? I'm not saying that you're remotely at fault for what happened or that you should feel bad. You SHOULD go to the doctor and get tested like people are saying, including a rape kit.

I'm saying you should stop assuming the worst until you have more information in hand, because this might be hurting you. You don't deserve that. PREPARE yourself for the worst, but please don't assume something you don't know yet. Talk to friends who were at the party. Ask if he seemed sober, or if they noticed anything fishy about how he was acting or how you were reacting. If this turns out to have been rape it'll help to have witnesses to either go to the police or at least warn other women away. This guy may not be a rapist--he might just be someone who has sex when he's blackout drunk--but that's still a warning sign other people should know about before drinking with him.

Is there a councilor who can talk to? You need advice better than an internet forum can give you right now. But please, please, please see a doctor.

Edited 2012-12-29 07:12 (UTC)

If you're worried about pregnancy you might want to go and get morning after pill right away. I'm not sure where you are, but in my state you can get it over the counter. It works for up to 72 hours.

...Seriously, though, I know you're trying your best to support the OP, but your advice seems more geared toward protecting the guy from being preemptively labeled a rapist. The OP's friends might not have even been in the position to observe what was going on with him (we don't know how drunk they were).

That actually is a concern. Getting labeled a rapist, when it isn't clear if this is the guy she had sex with or if it was two equally drunken people having sex with her consent before the blackout, isn't exactly fair to the guy, because this kind of reputation follows you for a long time. It would be best for the OP to find out what happened before accusing anyone of rape.

What happened to innocent until proven guilty? Do you want to be known for being a rapist for something you didn't do?

Not really?

OP's problem is that she's talking to an internet forum that has no idea what actually happened and is jumping all over itself to give her the most culturally accepted advice or else someone like you will reaction image them.

She has to talk to an actual in-person person.

Fake rape accusations are actually terrible, but OP knows her situation better than anyone here including you and me.

Oh, Chard, White Knight of Fandom!Secrets. Never afraid to give out edgy advice, never afraid to call those SJWs and SJW-wannabes out on their...un-edginess.

Of course she has to talk to someone in real life, you idiot!

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