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⌈ Secret Post #2192 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

though i agree with all you say OP, adn it is also my preferred way of living, but for our own development we do need to have a balance between online and RL...relationships develop differently IRL and whether we like it or not, that is where we actually have to live and get along...just make sure you are not being stunted in any way by your online life

we can keep it separate, but one cannot replace the other

[(Anonymous)]

this

things like, patience, tolerance, tact, the ability to read non-verbal cues, diplomacy, subtleness, etc. deteriorate if you don't practice them, and it's all but impossible to practice them online when you can just close a window if the person "in front" of you is irritating you

you can't do that irl (which is the appeal of online endeavors, I know), or at least you can't without possibly causing negative consequences

[(Anonymous)]

except there is plenty of places online to practise those skills too?

Personally I use those skills pretty damn often in the community I am in.

[(Anonymous)]

you do need a certain finesse to navigate internet society too, true, but it's different than irl

it has some things that are harder, like parsing sarcasm, intent, memes, etc., plus the fact that things on the internet can be harder to delete and can spread like wildfire, whereas real life rumors aren't quite as explosive (usually), and unless you are being recorded or faced with particularly gossipy people your words fade as soon as it's over, so it would be unfair to say that it's totally easier, but real life has this way of throwing situations at you that you would normally be able to avoid if it were on the internet, and irl you have to deal with them

AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

I think that largely depends on what you do on the internet though. For example, I run a roleplaying community. The people on the internet throw far more unexpected situations at me than real life ever does. In fact, I've found that the skills I developed on the internet in terms of debating, mediating, hell even having to tell people to fuck off sometimes, aid me in my daily life.

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DA

agreed. There are two people in my life for whom I am their primary social contact. In person conversation, negotiating in real time with other people and correctly reading them, is a skill. It gets rusty.

[(Anonymous)]

No, it can if you want to. I need to develop my RL skills better so I can... be better at things in RL that I don't want to do anyway? Just because I don't want a typical social life doesn't mean I'm "stunted." I am happy and I am able to live without harming myself or others. People like me don't need to change.

[citrinesunset]

It doesn't sound like the OP is a shut-in. They say they socialize and have hobbies. It just sounds like they don't enjoy parties or big gatherings, and there's nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is into the same sort of interaction, or the same amount of socialization.

I get the feeling that the OP is talking about people who hassle them because they don't want to go out every weekend or go to parties. Some people who are really big on going out have a hard time understanding why someone would enjoy spending a Saturday in. But the OP could be getting plenty of social interaction just by hanging out with friends when doing offline hobbies.