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⌈ Secret Post #2193 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[GunnerKrigg Court]


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[The Avengers]


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[French & Saunders]


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[X-Men/Marvel Universe]


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[Tron: Uprising]


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[Kagaku Ninjatai Gatchaman]


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07.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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[The X-Files/Fox Mulder]


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[Homestuck]


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[True Grit]


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[Saya no Uta]


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[The Silmarillion]


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[Homestuck]


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[Supernatural]


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weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[anonymouslyyours]

I have nightmares a lot but they don't really bother me, even while inside the dream, but for the past four days I've been waking up several times a night in terror. I don't ever remember the dream but I wake up convinced my mother is going to lock me in a pool. I don't even know how one could lock someone in a pool. I just know it is going to happen.

I am dealing with some unusually high stress levels, a good deal of it coming from my relationship with my mom, but my mother has neither the means or a motive to lock me in a pool.

Logic be damned I now get creeped out, hair standing on end, if she's behind me in a room or looks at me while I'm doing something. It's driving me even battier and now the dreams seem to be getting intenser even though I still don't remember them.

Has this happened to anyone else? How do you deal with irrational fears left in your subconscious from dreams?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[greenvelvetcake]

but I wake up convinced my mother is going to lock me in a pool. I don't even know how one could lock someone in a pool.

Have you been playing a lot of the Sims lately? Leading your Sims into a pool and deleting the ladder?

I've had unsettling dreams that have stayed with me for a day, but never unshakable recurring dreams. Can you get away for a few days or trying spending as much time away from her as possible? I don't know what is causing the high-stress and if it's solvable.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[anonymouslyyours]

I haven't played Sims in years and even then I think I drowned maybe two characters total?

Unfortunately the stress is here to stay and Mom moved in with me in my new place because she injured herself so that'll be awhile before we're talking about her going home.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

Well, I mean, not to psychoanalyze, but having dreams about your mother trapping you somewhere right after she's moved in with you... I mean, the conclusions kind of draw themselves, don't they? Not to be impertinent or anything.

All I can say re: the dreams is give it some time - for me the psychic shock of the dream usually fades after a while and you can get back to living. If the dreams go on, I'm not sure what I'd do. Good luck.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[anonymouslyyours]

I was living with her before I moved out. We were apart maybe three weeks and I was checking in almost everyday. The main source of our conflict has been resolved since so I just don't get why this is happening now instead of the practically five years prior?

Mostly I don't care why it's happening just that it is and I don't want it to. I'm not used to things getting to me like this.

Maybe you're right and I should just give it some more time. I'm just so tired. :(

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I am just crazy speculating here and could be way off but....maybe it's happening now because you thought you got away -not got away like fled, but you were on your own in your own place for, I'm guessing, the first time- and now that's over and she's back with you. So maybe your brain is thinking something along the lines of 'I'm trapped/She's trapping me' - hence the dreams. Again, could be way off and I'm just throwing this out there.

How you deal with things is personal and up to the individual, but for me figuring out the why helps a great deal in figuring out how to deal with the emotions.

Time heals all wounds and all that. So time could help. Maybe some meditation or relaxation techniques could help?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[anonymouslyyours]

There's probably something to this. I kind of dismissed this when I thought of it initially because while I'm feeling incredibly trapped she's not technically the reason but now I realize that I very much blame her for it.

Mostly I coped previously because I had an out. One that's no longer an option so I guess sucking it up is a lot harder when there's no deadline to fixate on?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[lunabee34]

And even if other things are making you feel trapped as well, I think often our subconscious minds choose one object to focus on because it's handier to have one avatar to focus on.

*hugs*

I'm sorry you're feeling creeped out by her when you know she's not going to do anything to hurt you or that you need to be afraid of.

Could you talk to her about your feelings? Would that be enough closure to stop the dream cycle?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, it's happened to me. Also sometimes I'll have dreams where a family member is unbearably mean to me. Just flat out mean and cruel, and I'll wake up and throughout the day or week following I'll be angry with them and have to remind myself that they didn't actually do anything.

Mostly I just have to keep mentally reminding myself that none of it happened, is not going to happen, and it was all a dream. Just keep telling myself that over and over until it eventually fades.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[thursdaymoose]

I used to be really freaked out by things with red eyes. Saw half an episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog and had nightmares about red-eyed chickens with spotted eggs for way too long.

Best I can advise is to just give it time. Also,sometimes when I woke up I would lie in bed and make up happier endings to my nightmares, where I was rescued. So maybe that might help? Even though you can't remember the specifics.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[thene]

I get Scary Insect Dreams sometimes. This was most intense in the first year I spent in the south - I was isolated and uncomfortable and SURROUNDED BY WEIRD INSECTS I DIDN'T RECOGNISE, ANY ONE OF WHICH COULD HAVE KILLED ME and then I suffered a bug incident so gross that I hesitate to narrate it here, which made it worse. Fortunately I no longer live in Giant Insect Land, but I did have a Scary Giant Insect Dream a few weeks ago.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[greenvelvetcake]

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested in hearing about the bug incident.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[thene]

Well uh i hope the page will have collapsed by now?

Someone accidentally dropped a live tick into my ear canal.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[greenvelvetcake]

That's terrible! Why on earth would someone do that?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[thene]

Complete accident - he'd just tweezered it out from behind my ear, I twitched real hard when it came out, and he dropped it in the exact worst place possible. I screamed and shook everywhere and ran to stick my head under the bathtap, and found it sat where I'd done the first shaking part so it was only IN there for a second or two, but I'm gonna assume I have many, many more years of nightmares about insects burrowing in my skull to look forward to. :[

tl;dr as usual

[childings.livejournal.com]

I don't deal with anxiety very well and I've had crazy anxiety ever since moving (I realized a few months ago that I've basically cut my family out of my life aside from random posts on facebook every other day, I barely ever talk to my dad, like maybe twice a year... I'm beginning to think my last psych was right and that I do have PTSD but that's another topic)

I don't remember my dreams most of the time, it's exceeding rare -- I think because honestly I sleep about 5 hours a day during the week and then I oversleep (12 hours or more) on weekends as a general rule. However, one dream I was having recently that's really stuck with me that I can't shake is this crazy apocalyptic one, where I'm still working as a substitute teacher or some kind of teacher assistant and then I get fired, and afterward I'm walking around in the middle of a city among skyscrapers and stuff and I look up and see planes flying really REALLY low, dangerously close together, and then they crash into each other and fall into buildings and there are explosions and huge pieces of rubble and debris everywhere falling, killing people, narrowly missing me. Fires, etc. I'm talking like, the entire sky is blanketed with these killer planes. I have no idea what it means and I couldn't stop thinking about it for weeks... it made me feel really uneasy (yes I had this dream before 12/21 or whenever the fake Mayan Apocalypse was supposed to happen so maybe that had something to do with it?)

I mean, your dream really just sounds like you have unresolved issues with your mom, like maybe she's being overly controlling or you don't feel like you have the upper hand in this conflict with your mom? I don't have any idea what your relationship with your mom is like but that's what it sounds like. Most of the time when stuff like that happens in a dream it doesn't mean the person really wants to hurt you in real life, it's just a reflection of how you feel in your subconscious only

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

Once when I was a kid I had a nightmare about a blinking red light in the sky that stuck with me for years. It was the weirdest thing. I tried to beat my fear by replicating the circumstances of the dream and basically showing myself that the scary part couldn't be real. Dunno how effective it would be though, it didn't help me a great deal. :( Anyway, good luck!

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[biohazardgirl]

<3 Sounds like you subconsciously feel a little trapped and like you're barely keeping afloat.

Dreams are weird. I'm sorry yours are freaking you out.

I have a lot of nightmares too but not a whole lot of them stick.

Nine times out of ten though my sex dreams are either fucked up or confusing and they stick with me for a long ass time.

Also if I dream about my least favorite ex boyfriend I usually can't shake the feeling of guilt and unease all day.

I just sort of wait things out I guess.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[kallanda_lee]

I've had really disturbing dreams about my grandmother on occasion.

She died a little under 3 years ago, and her end was...well, not pleasant.

On several occasions I just dreamt she's still alive...but very, very vividly, where I can't believe it's not true when I wake up.

I have sort of mixed feelings. Because in the last one she as really thin and sick-looking. And she grabbed me and I just really felt that hand.

But then despite, the horribleness of the dream, I'm just really upset she's not alive when I wake up.

Sorry, I'm not helping, am I?

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

Some nightmares leave me awake in the middle of the night making me feel totally, extremely paranoid, and others don't. Usually the feeling goes away in the morning though.

If anything, it's dreams that are nowhere near nightmares that stay with me long past waking up. It's not to do with irrational fears either, it's usually a dream that involves where I used to live. Which isn't a surprise because I miss it a lot, but after the dream I usually feel more upset about it than usual (+ a higher potential for tears) for the rest of the day.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

I had the same nightmare a few nights in a row so I decided to stop sleeping in my bed. I slept on the couch all summer. When I finally went back to my own bed I had a dream that resolved the bad dream.

I remember what it was but I don't want to recount it because I don't want to think about it too hard.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

I've been having really detailed and vivid dreams ever since I got on Ratio-Venlafaxine. The dreams never scared me, though. It's more like watching long, awesome, semi-lucid movies. They're actually really enjoyable.

Anyway, what I'm really getting at is perhaps checking any medication you may be taking for side-effects pertaining to dreams. Just something to consider as well.

Re: weird dreams you can't shake in real life

[(Anonymous)]

I'm weird in that I like having those types of dreams. I had a nightmare as a child about a toy from my kindergarten class that was so vivid it has stuck with me all my life. It's sort of like a secret treasure I have, haha.

I think the weirdest dream I've ever had was when I dreamt there was a white room where people would get hit with empty paper towel rolls, and then their skin would die and black plastic looking holes would appear. I felt creeped out for weeks!