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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-01-17 06:47 pm

[ SECRET POST #2207 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2207 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2013-01-18 12:20 am (UTC)(link)
This, it's why I'm skeptical and reluctant to add trigger warnings to anything when people whine. I seriously doubt that fic triggered you if you were able to leave a comment to tell me how triggering it was.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-18 01:09 am (UTC)(link)
Um. Possibly it depends on the tone of the comment and how fast it comes after fic upload, but ... I have gone into a flashback/panic-attack because of a fic, gone away for a few hours (a long few hours, sometimes) to calm down and stop shaking, and then come back to ask if the author could put up something about there being non-con or involuntary drugging in the fic. Not often, most people do warn for those things these days, but a couple of times.

I just mean you can be triggered, and come back later once you've remembered how to breathe, skip straight to the comment section and ask for some warnings. I'm not going to read the fic again myself, but just in case someone else bumps up against it, is all.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-18 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
I was refering more to the people that argue for hours on how a certain post, or whatnot, is triggering them. I've had panic attacks before, I really don't see how you can deal with that and rattle off scathing comments for that long. Especially when you feel like you're going crazy (Or at least that's how it feels to me!)

(Anonymous) 2013-01-18 01:29 am (UTC)(link)
I ... no. No, I couldn't hold it together that long, especially if someone was asking chapter and verse, because I wouldn't want to go back there again. But that could just be because. Uh. I'm not really good at confrontation at the best of times. Some people might be better at it, enough to be able to explain?

(Anonymous) 2013-01-18 06:48 am (UTC)(link)
That makes sense. It's one thing to, as you said, go back once, skip to the comments, and leave a polite comment about how this subject might merit a trigger warning. If they're going to listen, they will; if they're not, arguing won't convince them.
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[personal profile] bead 2013-01-18 01:32 am (UTC)(link)
Actually, part of the healing process is taking back control from the reminder of a time where the person who has PTSD felt helpless, so it is entirely likely some one could post a comment after being triggered. It's actually HEALTHY that someone is speaking up and asking for a trigger warnings. A trigger reaction could be as simple as a quick flash of fear and memory or a full-blown flashback or dissassociative state. So if I get triggered I deal with it, then come back and speak up, if I am at all able, so it won't happen to someone else. And it takes a lot of courage to speak up. I certainly don't want to feel like a special snowflake, or advertise myself as such, but the warnings system is a HUGE help to me on days where I'm a little shaky and greatly appreciated.

Obviously you've had some bad experiences with the situation, but don't assume everyone with trigger issues reacts the same way. A flash from a trigger is not always debilitating, but it's still very disturbing.

It also may help,you to know that trauma memories bypass all the reasoning centers of the brain, and are stored in the amygdala, or lizard brain. You know, where the "fight or flight" response comes from. So...the reaction to a trigger isn't reasonable...your body gets a hit of adrenaline and you feel hopped up and scared and shaken. So. I don't know your situation, but as someone with PTSD, I'd ask for understanding. A lot of us have found fandom a good, relatively safe space to test out speaking up for ourselves.

/off soapbox.
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[personal profile] diet_poison 2013-01-18 02:25 am (UTC)(link)
...people can come back and leave comments?

This puzzles me. You're way more likely to get shit by *not* leaving TWs