[ SECRET POST #2217 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2217 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Early because sick, sorry.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Reading this secret I'm suddenly curious: what exactly is the difference between a close-friends relationship and a "like brother and sister" relationship? Is it a degree of closeness, or some specific dynamic at work?

[(Anonymous)]

That was my first question. Ten had said repeatedly she was his best mate - I'm not sure it's that much different than being like brother and sister.

[(Anonymous)]

From someone who is lucky enough to have both a male best friend and a close relationship with her brother - yeah, there's a difference.

It's really hard to explain but I guess with my brother, while we do get along, we can also get into more arguments with each other that are allowed to be more volatile than with a best friend because, even if we fall out, there'll always be a bond of blood keeping us together and we'd make up at some point. You're allowed to pick on each other more. Whereas if I have an argument with my best friend it upsets me more because we could just part ways and never see each other again or grow distant from each other as lose touch (as has happened with friends in the past).

Also I'd be willing to spend more time with my best friend going out and having fun whereas with my brother it's more domestic. Also their are certain things you tell your best friend which you don't tell your brother and vice versa.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes but we're still talking about people who are "like" brother and sister not actually are brother and sister... so while you have a point regarding actual siblings I'm not sure it works in this case.

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In my comment above, I likened Ten and Donna to siblings because it seemed like they filled a gap in each other's lives. Friends, even extremely close friends, aren't always like that, friends are more...well, friends are more extra. Not extra as in "superfluous" or "unnecessary", but extra as in a positive improvement rather than the healing/absence of a negative. Friends can be just as good and important as a sibling, something you really need to be happy and something you really miss when they're gone, but they don't make you feel like you've always had a hole in the shape of them in your life.

In that way, friendships tend to be more emotionally intense than sibling relationships, because the nature of sibling relationships is to be taken for granted - that's what's good about sibling relationships, the fact that they feel like a constant, that they've always been there and always will be there and you can't imagine them not being there because they're part of you - with friends you're more consciously aware of the person's presence and positive effect on your life.

'Course, these are just my spontaneous thoughts so far on the matter, I haven't argued this subject before so I may not have considered everything.

[(Anonymous)]

It might be because a close friendship has the possibility of becoming romantic, but Ten and Donna were always voiciferously declaring that they weren't involved that way. "Never ever!"