[ SECRET POST #2221 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2221 ⌋

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Comments

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

Which situation would you rather be in: have your mom know that sometimes you have issues about shit and you're in counseling, while working towards trying to get to a place where you can live your life - or keep your mom in the dark, and just remain in the place you are now in total stasis with all the pain you're feeling?

I mean, I really, really know what you're feeling. I really fucking do. Not in terms of the depths of anything you're going through, your issues seem a lot more serious than mine ever have been, but in terms of secrecy and all that - I'm, like, obsessive about secrecy and I felt the same way you do and I hate to have anyone find out that I'm weak in any way. But at the end of the day, you have to fucking do something, and if having to appear weak and not being able to keep things is the price you've got to pay, well, then that's the price you're going to have to pay.

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

I'm just in the closet and I don't want to get kicked out.
Plus my mom tends to try and solve my problems with negative reinforcement even when it doesn't make sense. (Like making fun of me for eating when she thinks I have an eating disorder)

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

Well, your moms sounds like kind of a shitty person, but c'est la vie. I mean, it's totally understandable that you wouldn't want her to know, for good reasons and just out of inclination. I totally get that. But on some level, you have to make a choice here.

I assume there's a paying-for-college kind of a situation going on here, or some other kind of financial support?

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

yeah, my parents are paying partly for college. And for other expenses like food and clothing. I'm just a freshman right now.
And I feel like I'm cheating them out of their money because I know that there is no way in hell they'd pay anything if they knew how I am.

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

DA - If they're shitty enough to pull the rug out from under you just because you're the way you are, then they deserve to be "cheated" out of their money. A parent's love and support shouldn't be conditional on things like that - it is, I know, but it really shouldn't be. And if they'd support you if you were straight and neurotypical, then you deserve that support. Even if you have to lie to get it.

Don't be ashamed of yourself or of what you have to do to make it. Life is hard enough as it is; do what you need to to make it that much easier. And as a legal adult, I don't think the health office can inform your parents unless you give explicit permission. Just explain that you're in a precarious situation and you can't have your parents finding out - you're not the first person to be in this situation, and I'm sure the college has ways to deal with that.

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

anon who was involved in this conversation - i agree with this, and think you for saying it. I couldn't find a way that wasn't... uh... impolitic, to say the least.

Re: (TW Self Harm) Update

[(Anonymous)]

I don't believe in unconditional love.