[ SECRET POST #2222 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2222 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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16. [SPOILERS for Celeste & Jesse Forever]



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17. [SPOILERS for Superior Spider-Man, Scarlet Spider]



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19. [WARNING for incest]

[A Tale of Two Sisters]


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20. [WARNING for suicide]



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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #317.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Re: How not to hurt someone?

[intrigueing]

Just tell him exactly that. Tell him that he's your friend, you really care about him, you don't want to hurt him, and you know that you will hurt him if you try to have a relationship with him because you don't feel that way. Just be honest and communicate everything clearly. If he's a reasonable person who genuinely cares about you, he probably doesn't want you to just be with him even if you don't have feelings for him, and he should understand that it's not like you can magically whip up feelings for him.

If you get into a relationship with a friend when you know you won't return his feelings and will just wind up hurting him, not only are you doing yourself a disservice, you're not being a very good friend either.

Re: How not to hurt someone?

[(Anonymous)]

The weird thing is that I've already told him this, after I made the first move. I was really clear and honest about it all because I thought a clean cut was easier for him. It's just, this time, he wasn't really asking for a relationship. He was just telling me his feelings about me, in a ridiculously nice and makes-you-feel-special kind of way. He even said that he knows I don't feel the same way about him. What do you say to that, really? "Thanks for making me not hate myself for once but sorry I can't love you that way" is just... shit.

Re: How not to hurt someone?

[intrigueing]

I think you *can* say that, maybe not in such blunt words, but there's nothing wrong with saying that if it's the truth. Just tell him your feelings aren't romantic, and you can't really make them romantic, but you care about him as a friend and appreciate the things he said. It won't magically make everything fine of course, these things take time to get over, but it'll draw a clear line in the sand and if he knows for sure you don't have romantic feelings for him but you also don't hate or resent him, that's the best way for him to start getting over it.

Romantic feelings aren't fundamentally better than platonic feelings. I know that'll sound hollow in a situation like this, but it's better than misleading him and yourself. You shouldn't feel like you owe him romantic feelings because he said such nice things to you. If you appreciate what he said, that's really all you can do and there's nothing wrong with that.