[ SECRET POST #2230 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2230 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm this girl going to a LGBT center for counselling... only to have a guy hit on me there. WTF?
Ok, dude, so you're bi and there's a chance I could also be bi. But seriously: WTF?!

heavy sarcasm ahead

[hallokatzchen]

Gee, that's not totally inappropriate of him or anything :|

[diet_poison]

I'm honestly confused. I assume from this that you're gay. Did he know that you're gay? If not, why are you so upset? I could honestly be missing something contextual here, idk

[(Anonymous)]

not OP, but I gathered from the comment that it was less the potential differing sexualities and more an issue of hitting on a person in a place where they have gone for counseling.

[diet_poison]

huh, the emphasis on "well I might be bi!" and "hit on by a guy" definitely gave me the impression that the sexuality was indeed the issue. But I can definitely see where you're coming from with the whole "inappropriate to do that in that setting" thing though I don't know the details.

[(Anonymous)]

You seem aware that the B in LGBT stands for bisexual, so I'm honestly not seeing the complaint here. Him assuming you might be bisexual isn't exactly a ridiculous idea. Unless you told him you're not bisexual, or have a sign above your head stating your sexuality, how's he to know?

[(Anonymous)]

Assuming someone is bisexual is no better than assuming someone is gay, straight, or whatever. Assuming someone's sexuality enough to hit on them outside a counseling center is...kind of extremely inappropriate.

[world_eater]

Uh, why? Do you have to ask someone what their sexuality is before you are allowed to flirt with them? You're weird.

[(Anonymous)]

all the more reason why we need to take the B out of LGBT

[(Anonymous)]

oh piss off

[(Anonymous)]

so mad :3c

[diet_poison]

Is this like, a real thing that people are trying to do?

[(Anonymous)]

I'd rather just take the T and we can go off and make our own group. The B can tag along if they want, but I don't think it's going to give them any more visibility.

[(Anonymous)]

How was he 'hitting on you'? I only ask this because I get accused of flirting with people, guys and girls, all the time. The kicker is that I'm not, I'm just being nice and people just take niceness as "YOU ARE BEING NICE THEREFORE YOU LIKE ME AND ARE HITTING ON ME." I've also had friends and family go "ohhhh he/she was hitting on yooou" when I knew the person in question was not interested in my sex.

[making_excuses]

Same with me Anon. I can't help it if I am a friendly person...

to be honest I don't even know how to flirt...

[(Anonymous)]

Story of my life! I'm known to be a big flirt, and it's always unintentional. I'm just overly friendly/polite.
Funny thing is, when I actually do try to flirt with someone I like I botch it utterly. It's like I can't do it if I try.

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh, I hate people who think everyone is hitting on them all the time. I used to know a girl like that, she'd dropped her purse and some guy would help her pick up her stuff and she'd think he was madly in love with her. Needless to say, she was a narcissist.

[(Anonymous)]

I had to give a talk like this to a friend of mine before (we basically had an intervention but I was nominated speaker as the most blunt)

Paraphrasing it was:

"What they mean is you're very friendly and girls can take it as you being interested in them. I know that you're just being friendly 'cause I know you and know you're not interested in me, but they haven't known you for long and assume you're being that friendly because you're interested. It's not a bad thing, just mixed messaging 'cause you're a friendly guy."

re: a friend of mine who's just very friendly. Will focus all their attention, sit close, a bit handsy, overly helpful/eager to please, retriveing drinks, foods, responding to any slight comment with helpfulness. I knew he wasn't interested in me because he knows I'm gay and utterly uninterested so I ignore him being that way but the other girls at the party don't know that he is just that friendly. So they take it to mean he's interested because in our experiences that's how a guy who is interested acts (and in any other guy it would be sending up the "holy shit he's interested" flags for me, ESPECIALLY if we've only met a few times and are relative strangers)

It's unfortunate, but that's how it can be if you've just met and you're ~too~ friendly

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

I can't speak for your experience, but most people do make a distinction between "just being nice"/flirting and hitting on someone. Like the person who asks me what I'm doing this weekend (when we just met 15 minutes ago) and keeps on pestering me for a date ("you have to take a break sometime!"), even though I say repeatedly that I'm busy, is not "just being nice" or flirting--he's hitting on me. (And yes, that happened to me.)

[lynx]

I'm sorry you felt your privacy invaded :C

There's indeed a chance this was someone trying to be friendly, but IMO, the waiting room of a counsellor is not a place you go to befriend people. And if he was indeed hitting on you? What a shitty guy.

[(Anonymous)]

For clarity's sake, was it a multipurpose LGBT center that has counseling services and that's why you were there, or was it an LGBT counseling center? Because as others said, your emphasis on it being a GUY!!! who hit on you rather than it being a waiting room has me pretty convinced you just really hate people who take chances and don't assume other people's sexuality before expressing interest.

[(Anonymous)]

....Are you sure he's hitting on you?

[(Anonymous)]

The WTF is that he's hitting on you are a LGBT counselling centre, right? Like, he has the smidgeon of a chance but that's a really inappropriate place to hit on someone?

I get you there :< Some people have no idea when to shut up.

That said, I (a lesbian) once had guys hit on me in a gay bar. They were very persistent about it even though I kept saying no and waving them off in increasinly not-friendly ways. I even explained to them this is a gay bar incase they were lost tourists or something, but nope. Keep on hitting on me and trying to grind their male body parts up on me an dance with me.
W T F man. NO. Fuck OFF you CREEPY fuckers.
They pretty much ruined my night out. I was so angry. I wanted to dance with girls, not have manly parts thrust against me


(and the next day my straight friends it wasn't a big deal and I should expect it when I go out? what?! straight friend no. If I say no the guy should fuck off

and they can't work out why I don't go clubbing with them anymore. It always ends up with guys hitting on me. NOT fun)

[(Anonymous)]

your friends sound like jerks

also, if this -let's hope not- happens again, maybe complain to the bouncer or manager or whomever is in charge?

[diet_poison]

This straight girl thinks you were absolutely right to be creeped out. :|