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So I've finally went to see a doctor about my anxiety disorders, and I was put on medication. It's working for its intended effect, but it seems to have a certain....side effect. I'm finding it a lot more difficult to achieve orgasms when I masturbate. Mostly I just get frustrated and quit, which is no fun. I have an appointment with the doctor and will ask about this.

In the meantime, any other ladies willing to rec their favorite toys? (Or warn about something they were disappointed with?) I've always done it manually, so I don't have any and don't know much about them.

I would be able to give you recs on toys, but please tell me (if I'm not intruding too much), which kind of medication were you put on?

I've been taking meds for years, and only recently I was able to get my libido back. It was the meds I was taking before, it got to a point I couldn't even come.

Me too. I can't take Paxil or Prozac because I lose the ability to orgasm entirely. :(

I feel your pain :C

Most of antidepressants do this, though some block you more than others. Take care. After three years of inadequate therapy, I regained my ability to orgasm when I completely switched to a dopamine-based treatment.

*nods*

I started taking Effexor last January and it did not have that side-effect for me, but over time, I couldn't take the *other* side-effects of that drug. I'm not on anything right now because I'm pregnant. I plan to start taking something nursing!safe as soon as I deliver though even if it's just a couple month round of Prozac or something to get me reset and stave off post-partum.

I see! May I ask about the other side-effects? Venlafaxine screwed me over big time, and it was the med I took the longest, too :C

I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy! And an awesome motherhood. Good luck with the post-partum.

Effexor is a terrible, terrible drug IMHO. I would never recommend it to anyone.

It has the half-life of a gnat which means you start to get withdrawal symptoms literally within hours of missing a dose. You have to take it at exactly the same time every day. For me, withdrawal symptoms included uncontrollable crying and a weird feeling I can't describe. I was on the lowest dose possible to take; people usually take significantly higher doses than I was on, and most people's withdrawal symptoms include nausea, vomiting, and something that feels like an electric shock.

I had very, very vivid dreams which I do not like to have as I feel like I don't get good sleep when I do.

Initially, I was very anxious and having panic attacks, and the effexor in the short term was very helpful. It stopped the cycle of panic attacks and made me feel much calmer. Over time, though, I started to just feel foggy and weird and not myself, so I slowly weaned myself off the drug. There are whole websites devoted to how scary and life-ruining a lot of people have found effexor to be, and I knew I couldn't cold turkey it. So, I took apart a pill and counted the grains inside and put together two weeks worth of pills with half the amount I was taking and then I stopped. I was very worried, but overall, quitting taking the drug was okay for me. I read all these horror stories about people who became very ill or suicidal or just keep taking it even though they don't like it because they can't stomach withdrawal.

Thank you so much for the well-wishes! I am very optimistic for a better situation post-partum this time. Part of the reason I had a problem with my first child was situational (we were poor, we had no friends, no family in the area, no support system) and also because I didn't advocate for myself and I had shitty doctors who didn't talk to me about mental health or monitor it.

*hugs*

I honestly don't think anyone should suggest against EVER taking a certain drug when it comes to anti-anxiety / anti-depressants. Different meds work for different people, as every one have different body chemistry. I did fairly well on it, actually. I keep taking it because it cleared my mind enough to think. Before Venlafaxine my thoughts were such a crazy, jumbled mess I couldn't even begin to type anything akin to this paragraph. So yes, it certainly helped me out a lot.

I've taking Venlafaxine for a while now and apparently the effect wears off over time, which is why I had to take higher and higher doses of it. I think I've been on it for such a long time that even withdrawal symptoms of taking it slightly off schedule doesn't affect me anymore. Although, food for though, I'm on the generic Ratio-Venlafaxine, not Effexor XR. When my drugstore accidentally switched me to Teva-Venlafaxine I felt something was wrong (and awful!), and had to switch back to the Ratio generic brand.

As for the vivid dreams, that was a side-effect I rather liked. My dreams have become long and movie-like; it's all very entertaining. It's also become somewhat lucid now. As a creative-type, I appreciate being able to shape my dreams, ha ha.

You are absolutely right; I mean, they wouldn't still prescribe the drug if it didn't work for some people. I guess what I meant to say is that I would never take it again myself, and if a friend told me she was going to start taking it, I would advise her to be very aware of potential problems. I'm glad it works for you. :) It's such a relief to find the drug that finally works!

Ahh that sucks! D: I hope you're able to get stuff worked out.

For toy recs... uh. There's always the good ol' Hitachi wand, though it's CRAZY strong and pretty loud, and I know some people have a hard time handling the vibrations. I actually personally prefer the Mystic Wand- it's smaller, takes batteries so you don't need to plug it into the wall, and despite being as powerful as the Hitachi, it's pretty quiet even on its highest setting. Despite it being smaller, though, it's not really appropriate for internal stimulation, so you might want to take that into consideration if you want something more than just clitoral stimulation.

My best friend swears by Lelo toys- they're pretty pricey, which is why I haven't personally tried any of their line out yet, but they're apparently AMAZING and their designs are omg, so cute.

This has happened to me before, although I was able to overcome it by getting myself really worked up with some kind of porn. Didn't matter if it was written or a video, so long as it was hot enough. I take like, three different kinda of anti-anxiety and depression meds at the moment and I was still able able to reach orgasm.

Oh, well. To the rec part!

If you're new to toys, a vibe egg is always a good start, albeit maybe a too soft one. If you're looking for something stronger, go for the Hitachi. (Very noisy, though).

You don't mention if you like penetration, and to what extent, but I've found out I like it more if I'm using a manual dildo than a vibrator.

My current favorite dildo is one like this one: http://www.lulusoso.com/upload/20110612/glass_dildo.jpg , it's medium-sized, really smooth and the grooves feel really nice.

As for a vibrator, it depends a lot on what size you feel comfortable with. Silicone is the best material. Look for one with the head on an angle, those are awesome to reach the G-spot.

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