[ SECRET POST #241 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #241 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Have some more random bite links! Devilbats. ♥

Secrets Left to Post: 06 pages, 130 secrets from Secret Submission Post #035.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, [ 1 2 ] not!secrets, [ 1 2 ] not!fandom, [ 1 ] repeat.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Tuesday, September 4th, 2007.
Current Secret Submission Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

tl;dr

[(Anonymous)]

11. I sympathize. I agree with everyone else's sentiment (though not attitude) that DUH, of course people have life outside fandom. Some people keep their journals fandom-specific, some like me mix up everything (fandom, crack, art, fic, daily summaries, deep thoughts, rants and emo...) into one account. Some people post almost completely about their real lives even though they use LJ on fandom communities/RPs/whatnot. You can't expect people to post only about fandom unless, well, that's all they already always post about. Same with friending people for a certain fandom then another one takes over their affections; don't expect them to stay in YOUR fandom because YOU want them to.

BUT!... I really sympathize. I friended a handful of people in a fandom friending meme (I almost NEVER friend people unless I've chatted with them on AIM or through LJ comments first, or know them from somewhere else), just because NO ONE on my flist was into that main fandom of mine and I was desperate. XD I have become close to some of them and others I unfriended after a while, petty as it felt. I just didn't care about their personal lives and they NEVER posted about our shared fandom (a few posted about fandoms I DESPISE, too, which was annoying on top of boring!). One girl was just too immature for me; I couldn't handle her whiny, brain-dead, 15-year-old attitude. If she'd been a good friend, I'd've been interested in her life. But she NEVER commented on my LJ back and I stopped reading all her posts, so I dropped her without a word. Haven't heard a peep from her, though I see here in this comm and a few other places...

ALL THAT TO SAY:
If someone gets upset because you friended them through FANDOM and unfriended them when you found out you weren't really compatible, I don't think that should be taken as an offense; the test-run just didn't go well. Who cares about having a list full of fandom friends when you don't care about any of them? I'd rather have a flist that I am interested in.
I agree with feeling of your secret, it's just not practical. Don't care? Don't friend. It's that easy. :)

Re: tl;dr

[the-angelic-sin.livejournal.com]

AHH! You've just helped me understand why people have those "If this is the only entry you can read, you've been cut from my f-list" entries! Personally, it's only happened to me once and I didn't bother to ask why because I didn't really know the person long enough to care (much). :p Didn't meet her through a friending meme/community, either.

Re: tl;dr

[the-angelic-sin.livejournal.com]

You put that so nicely. Sometimes people don't realize that bit works the same way in person; with friends and dates/relationships.

The 11 Poster, hiding in a comment

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is, I left out a lot that I don't mind people ranting about. Schoolwork, interesting things that happened to them during the day/week/month, introspects, actual diagnosed health problems and their dealing with it, pets, sports, other fandoms I'm not in because I like learning about new fandoms through other people, etc. I don't mind the emo-family/friend/life unless they do it very often, which then turns my friend's list into a list of complaints, which I know is a rather petty and uncaring reason. I'm kind of amused at reading the comments and having people jump on it and not picking up the things I left out.

I just wish that there was a friending meme that would, well, mean that there'd be "friends" (in so much as one can become friends online) and not the "whiny, brain-dead, 15-year-old attitude" as you said. People want to write on their LJ as they will; fine, but I also want to read stuff on my f-list as I will. One does not enter a friending meme expecting things they hate on their f-list, but rather, as you said, "a flist that I am interested in." Sadly, I am not interested in someone's emo every four days, and I am sorry for that, since apparently I have a stone granite heart.