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So! I decided to give online dating a try again, because I figure hey, whatever, I'm only going to be this young and cuteish once, I might as well try and meet people to spend time with IRL too. Most of the messages are just creepy dudes twice my age, or super bland, but I've met a couple of people who actually seem really, really cool!

I'm crazy hesitant about meeting up with people offline though (you know, for all the usual reasons) and it usually takes me a while to warm up to people, and even longer for me to feel comfortable with hooking up. But I'm currently being hit on by the cutest fucking asshole I've seen in a long time, and yes, it's just for a one night stand since he's going to be leaving the state tomorrow morning, and yes, he could be a crazy serial killer, but damn. This kid is seriously charming. If I weren't swamped with work right now, I'd probably take him up on his offer, which is totally out of character for me.

So! Care to share your experiences with online dating? Successes? Disasters? Sexyfine hookups?

Online dating, huh...

I'm bad at it.

Haven't online dated, but the thought of "what if date sites had reviews?" came to mind came to mind.

oh god that would be horrible

Now I want to write faux reviews, but now I can't think of any. ):

I used okcupid recently and I met three dudes off of there, one was really not attractive and turned out to be really annoying but I was trying to give it a chance, I thought we could be friends (even though he stated up front he was bipolar, I thought, hey, so am I)... well, he ended up freaking out and having a major episode at a party and embarrassing the shit out of me so I stopped talking to him

The second guy was a super hot nurse (literally) but it turned out he just wanted a one-night stand. I met him twice, once just to get to know him first and secondly to screw him. I didn't really realize that was all he wanted until he didn't text me back but I wasn't upset about it or anything

And then there's the guy I'm currently hanging out with, we're just FWBs but seem to get along pretty well, it's nice to have someone to do stuff with, to hang out with, etc. I met him back in October. I usually sleep over at his place after work at least one night a week since it's not too far from where I work, sometimes we have sex, sometimes we don't. Sex is great. We don't have a ton of things in common besides being nerdy (right now we are watching Evangelion together because he has never seen it), he has pretty crap taste in music which I am trying to change. He is also four years younger than me which is odd, I usually go for older men. I also had sex with him the first day that I met him which was unusual for me (usually I wait until the third date). He's pretty intelligent but kinda high on himself because of it, he likes to read history books so I borrow books from him, vice versa. I guess he's kind of my new best friend? (Since everyone else I know is in Nashville basically?) He reminds me a lot of myself at that age which sounds really weird to say, in the sense that he's always complaining about having no money and working a shitty job that he hates and WILL I EVER GET A REAL JOB WILL ANYONE EVER APPRECIATE THE FACT THAT I GRADUATED FROM MY UNIVERSITY MAGNA CUM LAUDE etc and hasn't gotten used to the real world after college yet, it's pretty endearing

My advice is to just meet these dudes somewhere publicly the first time at least. Someplace you can talk in public is ideal, like a coffee shop or bookstore or something. You can kinda judge your comfort level from there. For me, if I plan to see someone more than once, I don't really feel comfortable until I've been on a few dates with them in public first.

Man I need a fwb, I'm just kinda weirded out by how that works though like do you straight out tell them that you just want to fuck or what. God it sucks being awkward :|

I've had a few OKCupid disasters, but I also met a serious boyfriend and an FWB-type dude off of there who were both perfectly decent -- in both cases it didn't work out, but not because they were the kind of guys you'd associate with online dating.

For whatever reason, I've never managed to meet a girl that way who wasn't immediately off-putting. I'm not making, like, a declarative statement, just saying that it's never worked out for me with ladies.

IDK about this particular one-night stand situation, but for actual dating scenarios, use the usual "stay safe" tips: meet in a public place, don't move at a pace you're not comfortable with, etc.

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