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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

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[Otoyomegatari]

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[Girls und Panzer]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]

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[Monster High]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]

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[Jackass 3D]

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[Paranatural]

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[Angelina Jolie]

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[Der Ring des Nibelungen]

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[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]

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[Medium]

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[The Americans]

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[The Mindy Project]

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[5Dolls, T-ARA]

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[A Good Day To Die Hard]

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[Harry Potter]

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The next time he tirades? I don't care if you're in class and the prof is talking, stand up, look at him and say, "I need to step outside. Please remember we're professional adults when I return." And walk the fuck out of the room.

Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, is keeping you there. This is college. You don't need a hall pass. And if your professor gets upset with you, tell him/her that stepping away is for your health and so you don't lose it on him since you respect his/her class too much for that kind of drama.

And when he throws out random tangent questions? "That's not relevant, let's stick to the subject at hand."

And when he starts screaming at you because he's a child? In a calm voice, raise your hands and say, "We're all adults here, let's keep this on an adult level, please."

And you should talk to your professor. Tell him/her that you're paying for this class and he is making it difficult to learn anything and it's making you want to stop coming. I can't imagine you're excited about that class coming around every week.

In short, walk away when he's damaging you, but the rest of the time, stay professional and remind him that he's a fucking adult. Ugh. I do not understand why professors let poison like this infect their classrooms. This isn't high school anymore, dammit.

It's 10x more ridiculous because this is a graduate program. We all ought to be professionals by now.

This is kind of the approach I've been taking so far, but honestly maybe I need to amp it up to the next level and make it obvious. As in, when he's being deliberately abusive or pointlessly argumentative, whenever that is, get up and walk away, rather than sitting through it.

You mentioned the tangent questions, and you're absolutely right. He's kind of infamous for those, to the point where I watched a professor's eyes pop and he rocked back in his seat when my classmate was getting riled up and nasty about something OT.

Yeah, no, not excited at all. I'll talk to my groupmates about it, and if they think that having the professor take this guy aside and talk to him or relocate him would help, then I'll approach the prof.

Also? Document everything! Write down the times and dates of every incident and as objectively as you can the details of what happened, specifically how it impacted the ability to do your work. Don't put in long rants, just a timestamp, what was said or done, what he said or did, and the negative impact it had.

The prof might shrug it off, even if you go as a group. If you go to him as a group, with documentation (leave copies with the prof, NOT the originals), it will be harder for him to brush it off.

I'll definitely keep this in mind. I don't want it to seem like I've been stalking the guy, though, because he already has these paranoid delusions about us "excluding him" from group work. When we're just not letting him make all the decisions?

But I guess this classmate throwing another tantrum in front of the professor might be just the thing to get the prof to separate us, so that might actually work.

If he's being excluded from group work it's because he is a colossal motherfucker who nobody wants to work with.

Exactly! In fact we've been going out of our way to make sure he feels included, sending emails to BOTH of his accounts (that he never responds to), and making sure to divide up work so that he gets what he wants.

But somehow we're still excluding him. He stormed out in a huff before the prof was even done talking tonight, just to show his anger and disgust at getting away from us.

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