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⌈ Secret Post #2261 ⌋

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[The Gamers 2: Dorkness Rising]

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[My Mad Fat Diary]

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[Homestuck]

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[Prequel]

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[Kaichou wa Maid-sama, Nana, UraBoku, Sukitte Ii na yo, Tonari no Kaibutsu-kun, and Sakurasou no Pet na Kanojo]

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[Skyrim]

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[Dangan Ronpa]

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[Star Wars/Spaceballs]

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[Baraka]

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[Yosoeb Yang / B2ST]

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[Wolf Children Ame & Yuki]

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[Charmed]

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[The Following]

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[Sherlock]

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[Penny and Aggie]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Sengoku Basara]

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[Big Bang Theory]

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I recently realized how shallow my niece is. She's always ranted about ugly people, or how no one fat can be attractive, or how she only dates "models", etc, but her newest rant made me really embarrassed for her. She said (out in public) how 'ugly' people should not have any confidence, because they're ugly. And it annoys her to see ugly please with self-esteem, because '0mg they're not Barbie or anything. They shouldn't have any!"

I've known her since she was born, and it really saddens me she has grown up into this type of person. :/

This makes me really sad. She sounds very insecure in herself, like she thinks her only value is in her appearance so if other people can be valued outside of their appearance it detracts from her value or something. I could be off base here but that's the impression I got.

No, I believe you're right. She's pregnant now and she's barely eating. She weighed under 100 pounds when she got pregnant, and she's 5'9. I was really afraid for the baby at first, but the check-ups say he's healthy, at least. It doesn't help her "model" boyfriend calls her things like 'Miss Piggy' or "Muffin Top' whenever she does decide to eat. She even passed out due to dehydration once.

Wow. This comment makes me all kinds of sad. Have you tried talking to the boyfriend privately and letting him know that his "funny" jokes might be taking a toll on her self-esteem and health?

They aren't jokes, at least I severely doubt it. I don't care for him much, as he's twenty two and hounded her into an abortion when they found out (After begging her to get pregnant for him for a good half a year) He's accepted it now that he knows the child is a boy. :/ They have barely any baby supplies yet and he spent ninety dollars on a new pair of sneakers recently.

He's pretty shallow himself.

Hounded her to have* My mind is gone at the moment

This just sounds like an extremely sad situation all around. I'm sorry. :(

I just hope she ends up better than her mother when it comes to abusive douche boyfriends ;/

there's only so much you can do for people who aren't asking for/don't want help, but she needs to eat properly or she's likely going to harm her baby, even if it apparently hasn't happened yet. if her shitty ass boyfriend is going to be a douchecanoe about her putting nutrients into her body to sustain both her and their child, then he can fuck off. his comments aren't "jokes", they're abuse, especially since it's clearly having an impact on her mentally and physically, and the longer he does it the more likely she is to keep it up.

This makes me think that all this might be indicative of a more serious problem. It sounds like she struggles with self-esteem herself, and I wonder if she might be at risk of an eating disorder. At the very least, it sounds like her attitude about food and weight is affecting her health to some degree. Her boyfriend isn't helping. :/

It sounds like a sad situation all around.

Honestly, I'd be really tempted to believe that she has very little self-esteem herself and is simply trying to cover it up and bolster herself by telling herself, "At least I'm not UGLY!" and that just makes me sad for her because she's being very ugly.

Is there any way you can get any dialogue going with her? If she's just a teenager, it might help to plant a different perspective in her brain, even if she doesn't quite grasp it yet. If she's older, though, I don't know what to say - people who are going to grow out of their immaturity tend to do it by their mid-20's; if they're not, they're pretty much never going to.

sa - nevermind, read your comments above and she sounds like a lost cause :/ Poor thing. Hopefully she'll come around, but I doubt it...

She's eighteen. And yeah, she's kind of...set in her ways.

Eighteen is hardly the end of her life.

It is if she was dumb enough to get knocked up.

Well I'm angsty about your Mom too but that's hardly anything to build a worldview around.

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