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⌈ Secret Post #2269 ⌋

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[Only Yesterday]

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[misfits]

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[BBC's dramatization of Gaskell's North & South]

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[Prometheus]

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[the most popular girls in school]

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[ginger snaps]

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[Alien Resurrection]

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[Spirited Away]

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[Secret Diary of a Call Girl]

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[Supernatural]

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[Homestuck]

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[Star Trek: Voyager]

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[Patrick Stump (Fall Out Boy)]

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[Pokemon\

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[The office]

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[achivement hunter/roosterteeth]

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[Jojo's Bizarre Adventure]

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I'm falling behind in class and I just want my study partner to pull her own weight instead of making me do everything and complaining that its too hard to understand even though I take time out of my schedule to try and get her to focus long enough to hear what I'm trying to explain to her. I'm so angry that her grade for this class is her best grade and mine is my worst grade. I'm so tired of the teacher always talking about how disappointed he is that my intelligence isn't showing in my work. MAYBE IF YOU HADN'T ASSIGNED HER TO ME I WOULD HAVE TIME TO ACTUALLY DO MY WORK INSTEAD OF TRYING TO GET HER TO SHUT UP AND PAY ATTENTION. And I'm really tired of hearing about how having three easy classes is too hard for her because she has to drive her kids from school to her mom's house. I have a life too and it is a lot more stressful than hers right now and I am going above and beyond to accommodate her whims and actual schedule. She's not even in school for a reason, she admits she just likes to socialize. I actually need this class please go AWAY. I'm so tired of her always complaining that she's stupid and wanting me to make her feel better. It's getting so hard to not just blurt out that I don't think she's stupid. I just think she's rude and lazy.

Sucks. All I can say is it's not your job to make sure she pays attention or understands things. That still puts a lot of weight on your shoulders, because you have to do everything, but at least you're not playing teacher to someone who doesn't care.

My lab grade is dependent on her being able to answer the teacher's questions about our shared projects correctly. I'd rather do everything. That would be so much more incredibly easy than trying to coach her into looking like she understands what's happening.

Seriously, tell your professor. Do not do the work for her. I went through the same thing in many, many group protects. I thought was so much easier just to do shit myself then be dependent on someone to do their part and potentially fuck up my grade up due to their incompetence. Guess what? It was also so much more stressful- more stress than I needed and deserved.

I used to send emails to remind people that we are meeting on this day, running trials on this day, analyzing results this day, whatever AND I'd cc my professor so she knew that I was trying to get people to get their shit together. I don't know if your prof wants a check on every communication you have with your partner, but you should let him know that you are practically doing her work because she is having trouble understanding and refuses to try to understand.

You should have NEVER sacrificed your grade to the point where you are almost failing and she is doing great. Talk to your professor.

...this is me, except I'm actually tutoring said rude and lazy person. I graduated college, he's a coworker following the same degree, and I'm making time to help him. The problem is, what I could do in an hour when I was in school takes him six. I'M PRACTICALLY DOING THE ENTIRE DEGREE OVER, THAT'S HOW MUCH TIME IT'S TAKING.

I'm about ready to quit.

Is there any way to speak to your teacher about this? What type of class is it?

Honestly I always hated group assignments in school because it's very easy to get stuck with people who don't take school seriously and there's no real way to motivate them (it's not like a job where they can be threatened to be fired.) If there's no way to get out of this then just do your best to get through it.

I don't know why your teacher is harping on you then when they should be aware that partners can bring an intelligent student's work quality down.

Yeah, she sounds like she's not applying herself here, but how the fuck do you know how stressful her life (with kids) isn't or how difficult her "easy" classes are for her?

She may be lazy, but she's not the only rude one.

Yeah I understand OP's frustration, but the rant is coming off as pretty judgmental of this woman who may be extremely stressed and may really struggle applying herself in school.

Not to mention "stress" is largely mental and doesn't always have everything to do with your life situation, I can be stressed sitting around doing nothing, in face I often am.

Please go tell some person working two jobs just to attempt to break even they can't say they're more stressed than you because it's hard on you mentally to sit around and do nothing.

Okay in no way was that comment about "who's more stressed" and I think you're missing the point.

Just because you think someone has it easy that does not give you a right to judge their life nor do you know what is going on in their head. And someone telling you about their life is also not a 24-7 webcam into everything that goes on for them in a day.

You can also fuck right off when you don't know someone's physical or mental disabilities and how fucking stressful it is to be unemployed.

Because she tells me. Literally the only thing she is required to do domestically is pick up her kids and drive them to her mother's so her mother can watch them until her husband gets off work. She brags about how she doesn't have chores and doesn't have to work. As for the classes? She's taking walking, bowling, and one other class known for being an easy pass.

I don't care if you think I'm rude for thinking it's infuriatingly unfair for her to ask me to make her a study guide the night before a test because she never got around to it and wants to go to a dinner party in the same e-mail she acknowledges I won't have time for it until I get off work but that it'll be okay because she's going dancing so she'll be up late.

That's when you say "fuck no. You can't go to a dinner party and go dancing while I sit here and do all your work. Stay home and fucking study, you stupid cow."

I'm not that person and if I even hint at not wanting to do it she'll lay in with the emotional manipulation and endless fishing for compliments and veiled threats of us failing the project.

Oh, why didn't you say you were a doormat. Would have saved us all some time.

Wasn't asking for advice so if you feel your time was wasted it wasn't me wasting it. I need the credits, she doesn't. I'm the only one with anything to lose and we both know it. If that makes me a doormat fine. As long as I end up a doormat with a degree.

Man/Woman the fuck up and tell your professor the partnership just isn't working. It happens.

If she's doing this in e-mails then why don't you just save them and show them to the professor, I'm pretty sure he'd have some things to say about her trying to extort you into cheating

Is it cheating? She's just asking me to break things down into a simple study guide for her.

What you mean is, she's asking you to study the material and summarize it into it's simplest points so she doesn't have to. Which means you're doing her work.

These people exist in every situation, so practice saying no. Say "I am too fucking busy." It's an easy thing, trust me.

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