fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #2283 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2283 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04.

__________________________________________________

05.

__________________________________________________

06.

__________________________________________________

07.

__________________________________________________

08.

__________________________________________________

09.

__________________________________________________

10.

__________________________________________________

11.

__________________________________________________

12.

__________________________________________________

13.

__________________________________________________

14.

__________________________________________________

15.

__________________________________________________

16.

__________________________________________________

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 032 secrets from Secret Submission Post #326.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

I'm a better friend to most of my friends than they are to me. The person I usually think of as my best friend...I just realized today that they usually only turn to me about something if they don't have anyone else to turn to. Sometimes it's about needing help or it could be a new interest that they've told all of their other friends about and none of them liked. The fact that I'm the first person they turn to when they need help and the last person they turn to when they want to share something good really pisses me off. A lot of times they don't tell me major stuff that happened in their life and then they need help with something relating to it and that's when I finally learn about the major thing. This has happened with everything from changing universities (found that out when a gift I sent was returned) to getting a new job to MOVING TO ANOTHER COUNTRY, which I just learned about a couple hours ago. I am so incredibly hurt and angry right now.

Oh, and I only found about them moving to another country because she asked me to go to her parent's house on the other side of the United States to get her car and store it in my garage because her parents don't have the room for it at their house and she doesn't want it to sit outside until she raises the money to have it shipped to her. Oh and would i be a sweetheart and ship it when the time comes? She won't say no if I want to pay for this shipping as an early Christmas present, either.

this is the point at which you stop being her friend

seriously, the next time she calls you up about something like that say "hey, look, you are using me like a dishtowel and it is hurtful and cruel and i am fucking sick of it. get out of my fucking life."

or something a lot more diplomatic if you feel so inclined

but seriously they sound toxic, get out of there

Holy shit, that is incredibly presumptuous and rude. Your friend sounds incredibly self-centered and like a bad friend all around.

...what the actual fuck?
I don't have any words for this.

That sucks and you don't have to put up that at all. She is not your friend and I think you would be better off without her in your life.

Seriously, I think this is the point at which you're justified in just telling them to go to hell.

She would love for you to pay to ship her damn car overseas?

Wow.

I agree with everyone else saying that this person is not treating you well and the relationship is toxic. Even if she hadn't done these over-the-top things like wanting you to deal with the car or not mentioning that she'd moved unis, it really really sucks when people use you as a counselor/problem-solver instead of a friend who you can also share joy and fun with and offer yourself as a counselor/problem-solver to. It has to go both ways. :(

This is not a friendship, anon. Tell her to fuck right off and don't look back.

Seriously, you have my sympathy. I lost my entire group of friends after high school when I woke up and realized that they only called me when they needed a ride (and always to someplace ridiculously inconvenient for me--and when they did decide to go somewhere a mere five minutes from my house, I'd find out after the fact).

The final straw came while three of us happened to be studying abroad at the same time; the other two went traipsing around Europe together and suggested we all get together in Paris, and oh by the way, they were having trouble finding a hostel and could they stay in my dorm room for a few nights. This could have gotten me kicked out of my housing so I said no, but that I'd love to meet up for lunch or something... and didn't hear from them again until we were all stateside. Yeah, I stopped responding to their messages after that. No regrets. I'd rather be a loner than a doormat.

Tell her to fuck right the hell off. Seriously. If she gets pissed at you, so be it. You may part on bad terms, but that may be for the best!

[ SECRET POST #2283 ]

Re: Random shit that you feel like ranting about

SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA

Re: SA