[ SECRET POST #2300 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2300 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 093 secrets from Secret Submission Post #329.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

"Get some other hobby"? You just listed four hobbies that she has. How do you know she has time for another?

Honestly, this sounds a bit like concern-trolling. She's "saying weird stuff"? What do you mean? "I ship it" sounds ~weird to anyone not aware of fandom jargon. Why are you concerned about her health? Are you saying that she locks herself in her room for weeks at a time and doesn't exercise or bathe because she's too busy with fandom RPing -- or are you saying that she's just really fixated on a particular set of hobbies and you find her interest somehow abnormal? If she were this enthusiastic about sports, or knitting, or politics, or volunteering, would you still find it ~unhealthy?

You haven't given us any reason to think that anything is actually wrong, other than that your friend likes things that you don't like and it annoys you. If there's more going on that you haven't said, then maybe you have a valid point, but if there's not? Grow up and accept that some people like things that you don't like.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[poisonenvy]

You haven't given us any reason to think that anything is actually wrong, other than that your friend likes things that you don't like and it annoys you.

OP: Hey, friend, you talking about this is kind of annoying and I wish we could talk about something else.
OP's friend: **Talks about Fandom**
OP: Can we please talk about something else?
OP's friend: *Talks about fandom*
OP: .... Please?
OP: *Fandom*

I'm less into fandom now than I used to be, but I used to be very, very into fandom. I dragged my friends into LJ RPGs with me, and we'd all RP and talk about it in class and it would all be awesome and sweet. Even I recognize that there is definitely something wrong about not not talking about fandom when you've been asked directly.

[(Anonymous)]

I think what the person you're replying to was referencing was the fact that the OP specified 4 different kinds of media [though tv/movies might be able to pass as one], at least two of which are generally considered hobbies by most people. So getting a new *hobby* [like the OP is saying] wouldn't really solve what the OP is upset about, it might just change what the friend talks about constantly, which would get annoying again after a while.

[(Anonymous)]

While this isn't precisely what I was getting at, it's also a very good point. If OP's friend suddenly got into horseback riding, or competitive ballroom dancing, or college basketball, or knitting, if they have an obsessive/passionate personality, then they'll be talking about horses or dance shoes or player stats or circular needles all the time, and unless one of those things is a hobby OP shares, the problem is not solved.

[(Anonymous)]

*raises hand* I'm that awkward intense hobby friend. I choose which hobbies to "broadcast" to which people based on shared interest, but if someone was annoyed enough with my fandom jabbering to complain about it to strangers online, I'd reckon they'd _probably_ be just as annoyed by my programming, crafts, or baking jabber too.

Although I guess there's no community you can post about that to, so I guess that's a win?

PS: DPNs >>> Circs except for two-at-a-time project, JUST SAYING.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh man, I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. It can be so incredibly awkward trying to talk to fandom friends who I haven't spoken to in a while. I just want to show them pictures of my awesome shawl, or bitch about how this yarn is totally splitting on me even though it cost $15 for a 110m skein, or how I made a mistake ten rows back but I'm not sure if it's worth frogging it all to fix. (To be fair though, generally the reason they're contacting me is to squee/bitch/commiserate over their obsessions that I'm no longer into, so it all works out in the end.)

PPS: I used to love using DPNs for anything knit in-the-round, but then I got some better circs and figured out how to do magic loop without it having a giant gap in the knitting where the rows start, and now... I-I'm sorry, but I won't go back!

[pretzelquatyl]

Fuck yeah, magic loop! I hate DPNs and I'll never go back.

...*slinks away, circulars in hand*

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

The thing is, I can easily see that as having been a simple misunderstanding; the friend might have (reasonably, if they'd discussed fandom things in the past with no apparent problem) interpreted OP to mean that OP was sick of/annoyed by talking about fandom things at the moment, and wanted to talk about something else for a while, as a change of pace, rather than never talk about fandom things of any kind ever again. That's as much a reasonable reading of the secret as your dialogue above.

[kamino_neko]

And a much more reasonable stance for the OP to take.