[ SECRET POST #2308 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2308 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Trans / Gender

[making_excuses]

I think both you and your girlfriend should dress and act exactly like you want to dress and act! Seriously, do what you feel is right for yourself don't let people dictate how you should act based on how they feel is the "correct" way to act.

No one is responsible for an entire community, we are only responsible for being ourselves and of course being decent human beings, but that goes without saying.

Re: Trans / Gender

[(Anonymous)]

DA
But isn't that part of the problem? It's hard to know what you actually *want* to dress and act like. Do I really want this or am I just fulfilling a role? It's all part of the self discovery and it can be very confusing.

Re: Trans / Gender

[making_excuses]

I dunno? I am not trans* so I can't exactly speak for that, just in a general what I think and feel.

I would assume that something like that comes with time, just like everything else? If you today want to dress and act really feminine or masculine that is what is correct for today, if you change your mind tomorrow or the day after or the week after that is also okay. Maybe over the years you will figure out whom you are, and even then that can change, which is true for everyone.

Personally I dress completely different from day to day, some days I dress really feminine and other days I dress in suits, I have some aspects of stereotypical Queer in my clothes and interests, some that aren't. Society has shaped me, just like it has shaped everyone else, but it is none other than yourself that can figure out what is the correct way for you to be.

if I didn't make it clear enough nothing that I said is specifically about trans* persons, it is just about people in general, which off course trans* persons are too!

Re: Trans / Gender

[elaminator]

Well said bb, well said.

Re: Trans / Gender

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Maybe it's both? Filling a social role, AND something you want to do?

But social constructs are just that - constructs created by people. YOU can change them and mold them, make them different, make them better. In fact, you and your girlfriend are already changing them by living your lives the way you want to.

You don't have to follow the textbook guidelines of "how to be a guy" or "how to be a girl" - you can pick and choose, and maybe make those gender roles a lot more freeing for everybody else in the long-run.

But that's just my 2 cents.