[ SECRET POST #2310 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2310 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Mozart l'Opera Rock]


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[Real Madrid/soccer fandom]


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[Wonder Momo]


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[Pokemon]


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[Hannibal]


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[Nick Lang, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Doctor Who]


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[Fall Out Boy/Peterick]


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[Ann Rule]


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[Hannibal]


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[Buff the Vampire Slayer]


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[Elite Beat Agents/Ouendan]


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[Amanda Palmer]


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[H & J webcomic]


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[Star Trek]


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[Game of Thrones]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

it might be strange to ask... but does anyone here have any advice/resources for a homeless 18-21 year old?

i've already been to the the shelter in my area (it's a emergency shelter and only houses people for 30 days) and i'm currently staying in a motel room paid for with my savings. unfortunately i only have so much money and my body can't take hot temperatures so i don't know how i'd manage actually sleeping outside. i've tried looking for an apartment but no one wants an unemployed tenant, you know? one renter even asked if i could pay 3 months in advance, and even when i said that i could (honest truth), he still replied with "...but you don't have an income :(" i can't win! and staying with family isn't an option since my relatives are either (a) the abusive fucks i want to get away from, or (b) unable to take me in.

luckily i'm at least getting food stamps and i've applied for disability (depression, self-harm, suicide ideation, etc, i haven't mentioned anything else because i feel weird about going in and saying "i have a bad knee that's getting worse and worse and at least one relative with ms, diagnose me!"). the mental health center here managed to help me get free services for a while (state-paid aid) but i've yet to actually talk to my new counselor (the appointment's next week) so she can't really help me yet.

i honestly feel pretty hopeless and i'm hurting pretty bad right now since i don't really have any friends. i hardly talk to anyone except the motel housekeeper and i feel shitty chatting with her and trying to seem optimistic when i'm really just a depressed, homeless loser that no one cares about.

[(Anonymous)]

Join the ymca for showers? Dump-surf for free food? Look for youth hostels or family home-stays for short term stays that might be cheaper than motels?

Good luck *hug*

[(Anonymous)]

there's no ymca in my area and the small gym nearby doesn't have an actual shower (just 2 unisex bathrooms). there's another but that's an hour walk from the motel and my legs and feet are killing me.

dumpster-diving is tempting, i guess i can try to look around for possible diving spots sometime.

no youth hostels/home-stays in my area. this motel ($225 a week for just one person) is the cheapest in town.

i don't live in a big city so i don't have too many options. :(

[(Anonymous)]

Is there any reason why you can't move to a bigger city? Person below reminded me - college gyms often have showers too, or at least the ones I went to. They are also often open overnight during exam times and they have health services and counselors. Is it possible for you to get student loans and go to college?

Maybe you can also go to the large chain stores and ask if they need help? Ask for the manager. Tell them you're out of a job right now and rather than sitting at home waiting for job offers, you want to know of stores in your area are looking for short term work - if the stores need someone to help stock shelves for the day because someone called in sick and they can't find someone to cover the shift, for example.

[(Anonymous)]

i'm already kind of comfortable here and i'd rather not fuck up my chances at actual therapy when i already had to wait a month for my first appointment (where i explained what my issues were). tbh i'm pretty scared of moving somewhere and finding out that it's not as "homeless-friendly" as this place. (by that, i mean people-wise and location-wise. i have to walk at least an hour to get anywhere in my hometown and that's just not an option with my leg problems. at least here, a lot of the places that i need like stores, the welfare office, the mental health center, etc are pretty close-by!)

i still owe my last college and i can't get any loans because i'm unemployed and don't have a co-signer. i've had some people at the homeless shelter and employment assistance place tell me "oh i think you could definitely apply, you don't owe loans!" but i've asked a uni counselor and that isn't the case.

i don't even know if i could do that kind of work with my medical issues. :( plus wouldn't they just ask some employee already working to do that instead of having to train a short term worker?

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, I didn't know you had medical issues. Some jobs don't need a lot of training though and not all stores might be able to find someone on short notice to cover a shift. You've said you only have a few people to talk to, right? So go in and talk to people. Maybe the stores don't have jobs but the employees might know someone who needs help around the house. You have medical issues, tell them what kinds of jobs you can do and maybe someone has a job for you. If you can't get a job, at least you talked to someone who is not the motel store's owner. Is it bad to try?

[kluify]

This might sound like a strange option, but have you considered couch surfing? https://www.couchsurfing.org/ It might be an option to give you a bit of time to get some things sorted out.

Also, in terms of renting you could have a look for places with short rentals - like a three month lease, and then negotiate with the landlord about paying up front. As well, if you have a look at classifieds or things like craigslist in your area there should be people looking for temporary tenants to stay in a room while someone's travelling as well, so that's an option to look into.

Also, like the anon below said, youth hostels are cheaper than motels. They typically they only let you stay a max of two weeks, but nice ones often have free food nights, pin up boards with advertisements for temporary work, access to the internet. Plus chatting with some random backpackers in your room whom you're never going to see again might be cathartic.

If you are enrolled in a course at all sometimes universities have provisions for emergency accommodation for students, but I don't know it that would apply.

Otherwise there might be other charities in your area that even if they don't have a shelter per se, might be able to give you some advice/ help with food/suggest employment opportunities.

If you can hang in there til you can talk to your counselor next week she should be able to put you in contact with people who can help you as well. I really hope you're okay anon, and I definitely care about you after reading this post! Stay safe.

[(Anonymous)]

i checked out the couchsurfing website a few months ago and there wasn't really anyone in my area. i couldn't even rent a place like that now if i wanted to, i'm broke from staying at the motel! ironic how i can pay for a motel room that's $900 a month but if i want to stay in an apartment that's $450 a month, i can't because i don't have an income.

no youth motels, like i said to the another anon. craigslist is a waste of time because i only get bites from people who don't live nearby ("i need a place in this city, i don't have a car" doesn't mean "email me if you live 30+ minutes away!")

i'm not in college right now. there's a uni in town i've considered applying to but i still owe my other college. :/ and i can't pony up $10k anytime soon.

afaik, there aren't really other charities in the area but i don't know. there's a good will but i don't know how they can help. i've tried asking salvation army but they'll only help with food, clothes, and the like. there's an employment assistance place but all they can do is suggest that i visit the housing authority for housing assistance, but i already did and the waiting list for single people is really long. i don't know how to ask churches about help and i feel like none of them would take me in because i'm part of the lgbt community.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Regarding the last point... lie.

And seriously, get that leg looked at. Those kinds of problems never get better untreated

[(Anonymous)]

i could. but i'm pretty androgynous so a lot of people think i look gay/bi. unless you're talking about something else.

i'd love to since my feet are starting to kill me (i don't know if it's from my awkward gait or what), but... medical bills cost an arm and a leg already. multiple sclerosis is a concern since my paternal grandmother had it and my dad said he was having vision problems associated with it, and according to my other grandmother (mom's mom, she was a nurse), ms can be really hard to diagnose.

[kluify]

If there's reasonable public transport to a place you find on craigslist, I'd say don't be afraid of a commute. Make sure it's safe, but it sounds like a 1/2 trip to the city would be worth it for you to get out of the situation you're in.

Like insanenoodlyguy said, if you're worried about churches, lie - a lie of omission, but still a lie. They shouldn't ask you anything, and if they did it's none of their business. Alternatively, you could look up some lgbt groups as well, since they might have programs to help lgbt youth in trouble (especially if your home problems are connected).

Whatever happens anon, try not to stress too much until you see your counselor next week.

[(Anonymous)]

If it's nearby try your local county health department. They offer clinical services, vaccines, etc. Ex. http://www.tarrantcounty.com/ehealth/cwp/browse.asp?a=763&bc=0&c=43675&ehealthNav=|7266|

My local health dept also offers dental services that are income-based and won't refuse you if you can't pay.