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She once complained with a note that I'm too loud, it's room noise level but I think the walls are very thin or something and I usually play games til late at night. Anyway the note said she'd come talk to me if it happened again, but I started to wear head phones after 10pm so I wouldn't annoy her.

When I have friends over I can't wear headphones obvs but since that happens like 3 times a month tops and I don't ever do any parties or other noise I thought it would be okay.

Today she put a mechanical alarm clock with a very high pitched ring on her window ledge, with the windows wide open, in the morning and it's right next to my window. And it went on for hours. I had a friend over so I suspect she's trying to get back at me since it has happened before but I never thought it was directed at me, just someone who forgot their alarm clock y'know?

And I'm not sure how to handle this. Like can't she just come talk if she has a problem? The note she wrote did seem a bit passive aggressive but this is just ridiculous. Or maybe I'm paranoid. Maybe it's not directed at me or something. Still.

Maybe, the next time you have your friends over, you could slip her a note in her letterbox saying you're sorry in advance for the inconvenience and that you'll do your best to keep it down, as a peace offering.

Yeah I guess that would be the reasonable thing (though fun fact: she adressed me by my name in the note, but only signed it with "your neighbor", so I'd have to go and check the door which is in the front building), but part of me is like... You know, she said she'd come over if there were problems again. And reacting to this passive aggressive bullshit like it's a valid form of complaint, that makes we want to block my ears and go all "Lalala I'm not noticing you're trying to annoy me". I know it's childish *sigh*.

She's not being a mature adult either, if she did put that alarm just to annoy you without confronting you first or sending you another note, if that can comfort you. Maybe she is genuinely bothered or maybe she's one of those neighbours who can't bear the sound of anything - the important thing is to try and nip this noise war in the bud!

Good luck, anon! I hope this will get better soon!

Thanks, anon :)

The first thing you should do is get in contact with her and just communicate about the problems. Hopefully she's reasonable and your noise is just getting her at a bad time, and you can resolve without things escalating. This is absolutely the ideal resolution, and everything after this is basically if she's not a reasonable person.

If she won't talk it out and keeps being passive aggressive, then all you can do is start reporting her for excessive noise. If she's not willing to be polite and compromise, then it becomes less about finding an equilibrium and more about just making sure that there's no repeat of this alarm crap.

So, if she does it again, report her! There is a HUGE difference between deliberately leaving an alarm on for hours and laughing with some friends. Her behaviour is deliberately disruptive and probably irritating more than just you in your building. Let her get in trouble for her bad behaviour - you're not doing anything wrong and you've obviously made great effort to be reasonable!

You could always respond with your own passive-aggressive note about her alarm clock noise. That's what I'd be tempted to do, though I admittedly have a petty streak.

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