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I hate hate hate how much fandom seems to incorporate mental illness. Like you have to have something wrong with you in order to fit in. Which just means rich teenage girls and ambitionless 20-somethings with no real traumas constantly whining about every little thing that happens to them, or if they can't think of anything, doing the SJW route and talking about how oppressed they are because they're bisexual (even though they have only ever dated men and are only interested in men) and demiromantic.

I hate that there aer people like this all over fandom and that my fandoms seem to be their place to flock together and whine. Yeah there are lots of people with legitimate problems too, but I'm so sick of hearing about it!

IA absolutely. And I'm saying this as a person who has these "small things" and whom a fuckton of people have tried to convince that she has schizophrenia and whatnot.

Mental illness is NOT good to have; not everything is mental illness. Stop trying to pretend that it is not the case.

Dude. Dude! People have tried to Internet diagnose you with schizophrenia?

That is seriously messed up.

wat. schizophrenia, huh? I do not think that word means what those people think it means.

I live with a relative who has schizophrenia. It's a severe mental illness, sure, but it is (and has always been) NOTHING like what people online expect it to be like.

So, yeah, armchair psychiatric diagnoses are bullshit.

Same here Anon! Schizophrenia is nothing like what some people seem to think it is, nor is Bipolar people for that matter.

They are serious mental ilnesses and it is not fun when you get to know that your family members tends to try to hang themselves or even when they are in a "good" period and they are so manic you don't know what they will do next, and suddenly you are in Africa with a four year old and can't get your mother home because she is in *love*...

"talking about how oppressed they are because they're bisexual (even though they have only ever dated men and are only interested in men)"

I have met sooo many internet bisexuals/pansexuals it's not even funny anymore. I'm not trying to tell people how to live their sexuality, but I always get suspicious when I get to know a person (oftentimes a woman), who constantly blogs about hot guys, only writes slash and het and apparently only ever has boyfriends and never girlfriends - and at the same time needs to mention in every second post that she's, "like, sooo bi, and you can't bring me down you evil heteros!"

my guess is that a lot of them think "I'm not grossed out when I imagine making out with a girl" = "I am sexually attracted to girls"

being tolerant of gayness does not make you gay and it does not give you the "right" (?) to come out to your mom as like "hi I only date men and I'm in a relationship with a boy right now but in some theoretical world I can picture myself making out with Gina Torres so IN YOUR FACE MOM HOW DARE YOU OPPRESS ME WITH YOUR GENDER POLITICS" and the mom is like "ok honey that's nice"

Well, on the one hand, you're right, but this kind of attitude towards 'internet bisexuals' can end up causing problems for people who are still discovering their sexuality but are made to feel like, without a long history of actual homosexual relationships/activity and genuine oppression, they don't have the right to call themselves bi.

Basically, I think it's more important that people feel free to call themselves bisexual/pansexual without being attacked as "impostors" than that ONLY "true" bisexuals EVER call themselves that.

negl i totally get having a low/nonexistent sex drive (i'm in that boat myself though I don't use any of the ace community labels for it) but the idea of demiromantic as an orientation is just the biggest load of horseshit i've ever heard in my life

and i say this as someone who much of the time isn't sexually attracted to people i'm not already emotionally invested in

Yes >:(

And if you do seriously have something you can't mention it because you'll be accused of faking it because of all the people diagnosing themselves. Not that I DO want to admit to anything, but sometimes it may be necessary to admit certain difficulties with someone (at least for me out of a desire to explain some things but I go for pretending nothing happened instead)

I don't mind the bisexuals, asexuals, demisexuals or demiromantics because I figure they're still working themselves out or are trying to find the right label to described themselves.

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