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I don't think you need to do anything about your mom. I think perhaps you should do something about your viewpoint.

First of all, if you are bi, then yay, you have terrific prospects for finding someone to share your life with. I would think that their gender would be less of an issue than whether or not they were a good match for you. I think any parent worth the title is far more concerned that their offspring find someone who is good to them and loves them as the parent thinks their kid should be loved. A person's outsides are just window dressing, their real worth isn't measured by their physical form.

Secondly, according to the guy who teaches our college's psychology/crisis intervention class, the definition of domestic violence is when one person tries to make another person "think/do/act/say/believe" as the first person wishes them to. Trying to force your mom to avoid places you don't approve of or tell you that you are right when it seems that she doesn't agree with you isn't the way to do things, is it? If you have the right to your beliefs, right or wrong, then so too does your mom, even if you don't agree or even like them.

Eh, tl:dr. Love someone for themself. Live and let live. Opinions are like... well, most people know the rest of that one.

So unless OP accepts her mother's belittling of her bisexuality she's domestically abusing her? What.

AYRT

Not what I said. Trying to force another person to act, think, do, say, or believe in the fashion you think they should is the definition of domestic violence according to the guy who teaches the domestic violence class at our local college.

From what OP wrote in her original post, she has a confrontational relationship with her parent over certain issues. From what the OP describes, she has things she wants her mother to do (accept her self-definition of her sexuality, stop eating at certain places, etc) and she is angry/hurt that her mother continues to act in the fashion mom does.

OP does not describe her mother as trying to change her actions or behaviors though. Her mother may not be saying what OP wants to hear but she's not trying to make her daughter something else or force her to change her beliefs. The daughter simply isn't getting the validation she wants from her mother. It's not optimal but it's not abuse either.

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