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Wow... angry much? I said people who are the perpetual student to avoid working. As in the people who continue to stay in school because they have no future focus in mind, who pile up loan after loan to avoid working, when they have no intention of using any of the schooling they're drifting through in the future, they just don't want to work until they figure out what it IS they do want to do.

Obviously if you're working/studying whatever the appropriate word here is towards a goal (BA/MBA/PhD/technical degrees like plumbers/electricians etc) and your parents are more than willing to help support that goal, then I applaud you. Degrees are hard work and they take a lot of time and devotion, and they're almost always likely to be easier without the added stress of a full time or even part time job.

I'm not judging or side-eying people who enjoy education and can afford to take whatever classes they want or who are working towards a specific personal educational goal.

I'm judging and side-eying the type of people who think that their parents are there to support an aimless lifestyle while they spend twenty years in school studying underwater basketweaving, or whathaveyou.

But even then, if their parents are affluent enough to support their future career in underwater basketweaving, then it's none of my business, and my side-eying won't affect them in any sort of way.

The question is:
Why do you judge people despite knowing it is none of your business? I don't get it. It really shouldn't bother you if someone is "leeching around the house".
I personally don't care much about what other people do with their life - neither do I care about what other people might think about mine.

I quote what an anon already said: You have no right to be judging anyone.

Technically, you're right, no one has a 'right' to be judging anyone else. Except we all do it anyway.

My judgment doesn't equal to being vocal to someone about their 'leeching about the house' because it's not my problem. If their parents want to sink money into someone who is throwing it away, that's their choice and no one else's. It's their money after all.

My judgment is about as affective as me thinking that people who wear crocs have no taste. It's never going to reach those people, so what does it matter if I'm judgmental about it?

My parents sunk a lot of money into my brother's wedding that I don't think they should have, because someone who's just filed for bankruptcy should take a step back and consider whether they really need to throw a lavish wedding for two hundred people.

I judged my brother for asking for it, and my parents for giving it, but I didn't say a damn thing out loud, because it wasn't my money to decide where it got spent.

And honestly, no it probably shouldn't bother me when it really doesn't affect me in any way if some stranger (or a hundred strangers) are taking advantage of their parents - though like I said, in a way I blame the parents for enabling as much as I blame the leechers for leeching - but it still kind of does bother me.

Not in any sort of way that I stay up at night thinking about other peoples' lives, but enough to prompt me to comment on it on the internet at least.

Thanks for your answer!

My judgment is about as affective as me thinking that people who wear crocs have no taste. It's never going to reach those people, so what does it matter if I'm judgmental about it?

From my position, I'd think it's a waste of time to think about other people's life in which you're not directly involved?
I don't blame you or anything. I just wondered why you openly wrote you'd judge, despite knowing it's none of your business.

And FYI, I bought a couple of fake crocs at a beach shop because they are convenient when taking a spontaneous walk on the beach and you don't want to get dirty shoes. Talk to my Chanel bag and judge me ;D

From my position, I'd think it's a waste of time to think about other people's life in which you're not directly involved?
I don't blame you or anything. I just wondered why you openly wrote you'd judge, despite knowing it's none of your business.

Huh, I don't really know, to be honest. Sometimes, "Oh my god, is he/she wearing that... really?!" or "I can't believe they said something so stupid..." just sort of pops into my head.

I don't usually set out to judge someone or something, it just sort of... happens. Could I probably stop if I tried really hard? Most likely, yes. But I don't tend to say any of those stupid and pointless things out loud, so to me, it's not the biggest deal in the world to merely be thinking them.

I'm weird I guess? XD

Oh come on, people judge people every day of every minute. You judge them on what they wear, how they talk, where they work, what they're doing. This may not be JUDGY JUDGEMENTAL JUDGEMENTS, but you look at people, and you make inferences and come to conclusions.

I get sick of all the "I judge you" secrets, but to get annoyed because of a comment about not mooching off your parents? I guess that's the antithesis of judging, when you tell others not to judge.

You judge them on what they wear, how they talk, where they work, what they're doing. This may not be JUDGY JUDGEMENTAL JUDGEMENTS, but you look at people, and you make inferences and come to conclusions.

I might have looked at the clothes of my classmates when I was 14 years old, but now? I don't. I judge people mostly by their actions towards me, not by their clothes or their work because honestly, talking about work bores me. Why should I care about other people's work? I work to live and don't live to work. When I tell people that I live in Japan one of the first questions is always about my work - despite Japan being a country with a beautiful culture and places to travel. I just don't get it.

I had several precious experiences with different people and I'm judged myself by Japanese people almost every day ("Foreigners cannot speak Japanese") - it made me change my perspectives.

But hey, if you like to watch other people's clothes etc., go on - but don't think everbody thinks the same way as you do.

but to get annoyed because of a comment about not mooching off your parents?
Do I have to be annoyed for stating my opinion and asking a normal question? Is it because I didn't use any smileys?

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