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[ SECRET POST #2355 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2355 ⌋

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I realize I'm pathetic. Hence the reason I want to kill myself in the first place.

you know what i don't like about these kinds of situations? when people say passive aggressive shit like that to try to make me walk on eggshells around them because if i say one wrong thing i run the risk of them doing something really dangerous to themselves.

don't get me wrong bro. i am sorry you have troubles with your life and i'm not about to start playing who's dick is bigger with you to qualify each other's problems. you know what it doesn't even matter the fact that there is something in this world that keeps you going. that's not pathetic.

what is pathetic is that that one thing is some random, mediocre british or whatever actor whom you'll meet, if you're lucky, a handful of times in your life. youre riding your whole damn life on him? really? we all have our anchors to this world but you wanna know something - having an anchor isn't wrong. but there sure as hell "anchors" which are more ridiculous and pathetic than others.

glad you found something to keep you going. but it's sad it had to be some random person you don't even know.

I never sod you were wrong or thy I'm trying to be passive aggressive. In fact I agree with you.

It's pathetic and embarrassing and no one who knows who I am knows this because it IS. I don't even understand where this came from or why but it is what it is.

I don't have parents, I didn't have friends so I guess I just grabbed onto whatever I could. Sorry.

Not trying to deny its absolutely irrational and pathetic of me but whatever happened happened.

Er *said and *that I'm

Spellcheck is fucking me over.

dude don't kill yourself. if you really think james whats his face is that amazing, just remember that there are literally a thousand and more better things out there.

yo you should turn off autocorrect lol

Passive aggressive for speaking the simple truth? Okaaay.... You seem to be the one who is a little too sensitive if you can't handle people being honest about depression and suicide.

when you've joined the military and been deployed, lemme know your sensitivity to suicide and depression.

and before you tell me some sob story about your wonderful significant other and/or family member who's in the ranks, save it. i really don't care dude lol.

i'm so glad this one individual experience has made you the sole arbiter of the worth of other people's problems

i have a feeling other people who've been in the military would probably still think you're being a fucked up jackass, regardless of your personal experiences

So did you get your Badge of Dickery before or after the PTSD set in? Just wondering.

DA

Unless you were drafted or kidnapped as a child, you have no one to blame for any of that but yourself. So I really don't care either dude lol.

So Marines, I'm guessing?

lol Americans

Hey, don't offend the military, I know many a servicemen, myself included, who didn't become pretentious little dicks who feel that because they've gone through war they get to belittle and condescend down to others problems who they feel are beneath them. Don't bring the military into the fact your a cantankerous dick :D

How was what they said passive aggressive? It may be pathetic, but it's still a reason. Fandom can touch you in really powerful ways, the source doesn't really matter. The final result is profound entough.

I think what actually gets me about these situations is when they tell the actors. Because what do you even say to that. Or rather, I know what they say but it must be such a surreal mindfuck...

I'm not the person above but I just want to chime in for a second and say that you should consider the actor's POV too :/ Just imagine how it must feel to have someone tell you you are literally the reason they haven't killed themselves yet. Like, I have an uncle who's kinda well known where we live (not for acting or anything) and someone told him that once and my uncle seriously just shut down. You might think it's a flattering thing to hear but let me tell you, when you're actually put in that situation, it's not. Because you remember you aren't really anything special and someone who is already fragile is pinning their everything on you. At least from what I've seen, it's a lot more terrifying than it is humbling.

I realize how I must feel to people to be told that. Even when you're not famous people get told this and their whole being is put onto another person.

I don't really plan to ever tell him.

Yeah I've been thinking about this a lot and I'm afraid to make a public post about it because it's such a sensitive issue (and unlike the thread OP I don't think there's any pathetic reason to not kill yourself).

There's a story about James Doohan from Star Trek helping a suicidal fan, but the thing about that story is that she reached out to him for help and he responded. I'm not saying it was great, but he was involved and they interacted as equals.

When it's the idealized version of the actor in your head helping you, they're really not involved, and they don't need to be.

I think a lot of actors, especially in the geek circles, are more used to it. Look at James Doohan and his story about the young, suicidal fan that he only saw at conventions, who eventually became an engineer and overcame her depression thanks to him.

I think y'all are kinda being a douche. I mean, hell, did OP TELL McAvoy this at all? No, they said it here, in a fandom space. Fandom does a lot of things that freak actors out, and saying, "When I was in a dark place, this person was the light that I focused on to guide me out" is not one of them. OP isn't putting anything on McAvoy personally. Y'all really need to show a little empathy. Sheesh.

OP, you are not pathetic. And your coping mechanism isn't pathetic either. Whatever gets you through the day when your days are bad, whatever you think of to give you strength when you need to put one foot in front of the other, it isn't stupid. At all. To people on the outside, anything can look stupid, from celebrities to cartoon owls to therapy. They are not where you are. Even if they also have depression, they are still not where you are. What is important to you is important for exactly that reason, and it's fantastically brave that you've pulled yourself this much further, just one that one strange light. Good for you, and may your days get even better.

I don't think OP is pathetic at all, I think meaning is where we find it. I mentioned James Doohan in another comment - a relationship with a celebrity isn't the same as dozens of young girls telling an actor he's such an amazing perfect person that he kept them from suicide. I added the line about telling the actors because while I was defending OP, that was a situation in which I could see anons criticisms as more valid. OP has already said they don't plan on telling McAvoy and I'm very sorry that I implied that.

The truth is, you don't always have to play the devil's advocate.

A large part of empathy is knowing when not to.

i like how you so deftly make a complete strangers anonymous problems all about you and what you think of them

you literally made these comments just to tell them that what keeps them going is sad, and that's more fucking pathetic than anything the OP could ever put out there

Assuming there wasn't someone holding a gun to your head when you wrote this, you didn't have to engage in this conversation. The only one being passive-aggressive here is you by even trying to make the OP feel bad about telling the truth to someone who didn't have to interact with them into the first place. God save us all from your stupidity.

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