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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-07-06 03:21 pm

[ SECRET POST #2377 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2377 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 071 secrets from Secret Submission Post #340.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-07-06 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Possible tl;dr incoming, but...

I was born without breast tissue or a pectoralis muscle on one side. When I was in middle school, I had a surgery where a breast implant was put in and a muscle was taken from my back to essentially become the missing pec. I have a lot of conflicting feelings about this. (Did I do the right thing? Did I do it for the right reasons? Are the resulting impairments re: my back and my arm strength worth it?)

...I also don't feel female and alternate between feeling casually genderless and feeling a lot of dysphoria, but the idea of having SRS provokes just as much revulsion- I don't want to be male, either. I feel alienated in trans* spaces and also I worry that because of the above physical anomalies that my dysphoria isn't really 'real' and it's just because of my surgery feelings, even though the dysphoria isn't limited to my boobs.

I have no idea where to go or what to do about any of this.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-07-06 10:36 pm (UTC)(link)
FWIW, this trans guy doesn't think your dysphoria isn't real. If your body doesn't feel like your own and it's distressing you, that's dysphoria, no matter what your desired result is.

Unfortunately, I don't know what to say other than that :( Trying to achieve a non-binary body in a binary world is absurdly difficult. I hope you can find a path that works for you. /hugs if you want them

Re: Non-fandom secrets

(Anonymous) 2013-07-07 02:27 am (UTC)(link)
my boyfriend doesn't have a right pectoral muscle, but they didn't move his back muscle to compensate, so he's got a crazy strong back muscle there. I like to poke at it to feel the difference.

It's kind of hot.

So, maybe this isn't really going to help you or anything so much as it's a related secret.