[ SECRET POST #2413 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2413 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Can I say something?

[(Anonymous)]

This. I'm 42 and there's times when the ongoing...what's the word I want...adolescentification? Can that be a word? Anyway, the tendency for older and older people to still act and be treated like kids is starting to worry me. Even a lot of people of my own generation don't act the way grownups did when I was a kid (full disclosure: I'm often one of them,) and it gets more pronounced with each generation following us.

And I'm glad to hear you're less scared of having kids. Obviously not everyone needs to have them or is even cut out to have them, and that's fine. But the way pregnancy is being perceived as this horrifying unnatural condition, fetuses being characterized as "parasites" and suchlike, really concerns me sometimes, because it's instilling this unnecessary level of aversion and paranoia about something that we're all the product of and the majority of the time goes down without serious incident.

The trend for women to put it off til later and later ages, without giving any consideration to how much time they'll actually have to spend with their child or what kind of health problems older mothers and their children are more prone to, concerns me too. I can say from experience that losing your mother young is no fun.

Re: Can I say something?

[chardmonster]

I should clarify. I don't feel at all ready to have kids (relax, Noodle) because I don't think I'm at a place where I can properly care for them job-wise. I don't even know what part of the country I'll end up in. I just don't think they'd end my life.

I might be stuck putting it off until my mid-thirties because academia sucks and it's been like this for academic women for a good couple decades.

Re: Can I say something?

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen that a lot from my Dad's side of the family. My aunts are older and want to party all the time. It's just...not right.

I agree about childbirth. I don't know where this idea came from that it's a horrible thing and that children are terrible and will suck your life away.
I never thought of a parent not being there for a child; how common is that since women are having children at an older age now?

Also, I think a lot of people need to consider how much they have to give of themselves before having children, just like in a marriage, but at the heart of it you have to be responsible for another life and I don't think my generation or the current one are doing it any favours with this selfish syndrome that's prevalent among the youth.

Re: Can I say something?

[chardmonster]

I don't see a selfish syndrome at all! If anything a lot of us are having kids older because we think we need so much to raise kids.

The issue I see isn't a lack of responsibility but rather an underlying anxiety about our possible inadequacy.

Re: Can I say something?

[(Anonymous)]

The whole reality of how badly parents can fuck up children is something that is actually present in the minds of the current generation of would-be-parents in a way that it plainly wasn't for the generation that had them.

The advances in psychology and its popularization are kind of staggering.

In my parents' generation, having kids was something you did - and you didn't worry about whether you were gonna be a good enough parent or not in any but the maybe most basic material way.