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⌈ Secret Post #2420 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Just need to vent about my sister.....

[(Anonymous)]

Dude, she isn't gaining weight to spite you. I understand about stress-eating, and how stress and being ashamed can lead to depression and giving up on the things you need to do to be healthy because guess what? The stuff you need to do to be healthy is HARD. Much harder than simply eating fruit instead of junk food, BTW.

You know what causes more stress and shame? Having family members harangue you about how fat you are and how you're not trying hard enough to be skinny. The fact that you and your father are discussing her weight is just... jesus. Just stop. Please. If you want to help your sister, shaming her for being fat and lazy and nagging her about her diet is the very worst thing you can do. It isn't just judgmental, it's counterproductive as well. I 100% guarantee you that no fat person has ever gone, welp, my family thinks I'm disgusting and apathetic, I guess I'll put down this box of Ho-Hos and have some celery, then hit the gym.

And let me stress: It doesn't matter if you're technically correct or not. It just doesn't. Maybe you're right, your sister is a lazyass lardbutt who plans to eat herself into an early grave. If you want her to be miserable as well as unhealthy, keep fighting "tooth and nail" and be sure to let her know you're watching (and disapproving of) every single calorie that goes into her mouth.



Alternatively, consider trying to help her with the stress of school and whatever else is troubling her. Attack the cause, not the symptoms. Let her know that you love her and that you're on her side no matter what, and please, please PLEASE don't make her feel ashamed for being overweight or treat her like she's too dumb to realize that her lifestyle is unhealthy.

Re: Just need to vent about my sister.....

[(Anonymous)]

+1 To all of this. Family members can do real damage even if they are trying to "help". I was subjected to a Mother who constantly told me I could wear something if I'd just "loose a little weight" and was totally fine with me skipping meals. It did not make me skinny, it gave me an eating disorder and made me hate myself.

The most amount of weight loss I've ever achieved happened when people left me alone about my weight and I came to my own realizations about what health and diet would work for me. I still have struggles because I suffer from clinical depression and the damage of me hating myself has already been done, but this is why I am very supportive of being more concerned with building self esteem then being obsessed with what a person weighs. I think if I had better self esteem I'd treat myself a lot better then I do.