[ SECRET POST #2460 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2460 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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05. [SPOILERS for something but OP did not say what]



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06. [SPOILERS for Dark Lord of Derkholm]



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07. [SPOILERS for Catching Fire]



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08. [SPOILERS for Breaking Bad]



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09. [SPOILERS for A Touch of Cloth]



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11. [WARNING for suicide]



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12. [WARNING for depression, suicide]



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13. [WARNING for rape]



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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #351.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 (warning for rape) - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

:(
You shouldn't keep it all bottled up. Maybe just make sure to not *only* post about your problems. My RL posts are interspersed with fandom and pet stuff. So far no one has unfollowed me. You could also (if on tumblr) tag your posts with something like *'username' personal post* so people can blacklist it if they want.

[(Anonymous)]

but if no one wants to hear it, why bother saying it in the first place? the last thing i want to do is drive away the few friends i already have.

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is, people might want to hear it and help and support you. It's just that helping people can be emotionally taxing, and if a person is being leaned on too often, or by too many people, it can drain them and start to affect their mental health.

The best option in this case is for the supporter to know their limits and set up boundaries so they can conserve their emotional energy.

It's also why having a large support network is beneficial for mental health. Because their need for support is distributed across a greater number of people, so none of them become overly taxed.

If you really need it, you should reach out. <3

[(Anonymous)]

Think of it like doing a favor for someone. In a normal friendship that's a healthy part of give and take, you cover the pizza one evening, they pay for movie tickets the next time. There's no real need to count it up to the dollar, you just both enjoy getting a chance to treat the other person now and then.

But then you have a friend who never contributes. The two of you go out, you're paying for their meal, their tickets. They only call or message you because they need money. And you try to come up with ways to hang out that don't involve money, but they don't want to do that. They just want you to buy buy buy buy buy.

Now switch money with emotional energy. Normal friendships there will be give and take. You support them, they support you, and there's interactions that aren't about need but just enjoying eachother's company. Giving them a chance to support you during the hard stuff should be a way to let them know when they're in a tough spot you'll be there for them too.