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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-10-13 03:23 pm

[ SECRET POST #2476 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2476 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2013-10-13 10:11 pm (UTC)(link)
It may be true about 90% of the population but I have a really hard time buying that we can know this for sure. If society was way more open to experimenting, I feel like a shit-ton more people would identify as bi or gay. Studies account for closeted people supposedly, but they can't really account for the oblivious (and depending on how your attraction operates it's sometimes possible to be oblivious), and when you bring in the amount of respect you should have for whatever somebody chooses to label him or herself, it's all just hella complicated.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-14 12:39 am (UTC)(link)
I loathe the "you could be oblivious as to you're gay-bi-ness!" argument. Um, no. It doesn't work like that. You know when it happens.

And that "obliviousness" argument creates some ugly entitlement issues in the populations that believes it.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-14 01:33 am (UTC)(link)
no, not necessarily. it can take a while before you realize it. i spent the majority of my life thinking i was straight because i knew that i liked guys, so therefore i must be straight, right? wrong. it wasn't until a got a really major, really undeniable crush on a girl that i realized that yeah, i'd thought girls were attractive all along, i just tried to rationalize it as being non-sexual attraction.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-14 02:06 am (UTC)(link)
I was sixteen and had to have my own love of women POINTED OUT TO ME.

So, yeah, fuck you, straighty.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-14 04:26 am (UTC)(link)
I'm 26, and I know jack squat about my own orientation. I think I'm asexual because I don't have a specific desire for sex, but the notion doesn't bother me at all in the context of a good relationship - and I'm open to that relationship being straight or gay, because frankly whether or not a person likes dogs (just for one example) is a much more important compatibility factor for me than what their genitals are.

On the other hand, I've never tasted mango, so of course I don't go about having cravings for it. Maybe I am straight, gay, bi, or whatever. Or maybe the very fact that I don't know confirms the asexuality. But assuming there's something wrong with people because they don't have themselves figured out yet is an ugly attitude too.
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[personal profile] poisonenvy 2013-10-14 09:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Yep, I thought for years that I was asexual because I wasn't attracted to men. And then I realize I was actually attracted to women. And then a few years down the line, I realized I was actually attracted to men, too. So...

(Anonymous) 2013-10-15 06:10 am (UTC)(link)
I loathe the "you could be oblivious as to you're gay-bi-ness!" argument. Um, no. It doesn't work like that. You know when it happens.

Um, yes, it can. You're talking about entitlement while insisting your limited observation defines reality? Bullshit.